Wedding rings necessary when being married?

Question

I have been married for almost a year. I had no engagement ring nor have not recieved a wedding ring. I have no idea how to approach him on the issue, are the rings even necessary?

When we were married it was very quickly and the J.P. took off his ring and gave it to us this is the last I have seen of a ring.

Some background:

We are both college students.

He is from Nigeria.

I would like to know the significance of the ring.

Thank you,

Kandice

Answer 1

a ring is a symbol of your love, the ring has no begging or end to symbolize unity with each other. so no it is not necessary but let you know when you see it of your love to each other.

Answer 2

I found this site that supposedly sells Nigerian wedding rings, but they look pretty random to me, and the site doesn't mention traditions much;

http://www.nigerianweddings.net/style/ri...

Here's a site that mentions Nigerian tradition, but doesn't mention a ring;

http://weddingchannel.com/ui/buildArticl...

On this discussion board someone mentions that Nigerian men flirt an awful lot with their rings on. Maybe they just don't take the wedding ring itself very seriously?;

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-9...

http://www.naijawedding.com/

Congratulations, good luck, and get that ring!

Answer 3

Wedding rings are not necessary in the least.

They are supposed to symbolize a union that will last for a life time. No beginning and no end, hence circular. Most people don't even know what it was originally to signify. Often it is used to "show" people you are married, or to show "ownership" of one another. A person with a wedding ring is no more married than a person without.

A ring can make you feel... taken. Can help to signify to others that you are not wanting their attention. But a quick word or look can do the same. So can body language.

Many people live without a ring and are happily married. If you want one badly enough, you need to be frank about it. He may explain that he thinks it's an expense that isn't needed right now. But know this. They have small gold bands at Walmart for around 20 dollars each. You could both have one of those if you so chose, and not at great cost either. It's real gold too. They have fake rings you can buy for like 6 dollars, they won't last long and might turn your finger green. But who cares when you love each other?

How to approach him on the subject. Honey, i saw at Walmart they have gold band wedding rings for 15 to 20 dollars each. I have saved up 50 dollars and would like us to go look at them. Or, i feel that that is something we can afford and would like to go look at them. I know our marriage means more than just rings, but i'd still like one and like to have you wear one as well. Just shows the rest of the world, at a glance, we are married.

Than be willing to listen to him. If the finances aren't there for so inexpensive of a ring, explain you'd like to have it considered and might be willing to make a sacrifcice somewhere for it. Let's say, take up a babysitting job for it once or twice a week until you can afford it. Or, give up that coffee until it can be afforded.

It is not important in life that you wear one. But if it's important to you, than you should have one. I wore a simple band for a year that cost me very little until i could afford a better one. And mine is sitll not fancy. I have been asked why i don't buy myself or make him buy me a better ring. I love my ring as it is. It's just right for me. I dont' need a huge rock to make me happy. Diamonds don't prove love, our 17 year long marriage does.  

Answer 4

well i think they are but idk. but i think it's a symbol of a compromise......of a promise to love each other forever.

i dont knowoooo goooood luck ;)

Answer 5

This is my understanding on the wedding ring custom.  Please forgive me if I am not correct.

The wedding ring was instituted by the Church as a way to show that you were married.  It is worn on the 4th finger on the left hand because:the artery that goes into that finger is bigger than the artery going into the other fingers and your your heart is positioned slightly to the left of your chest, so it is considered the closest point from your hand to your heart.

I like the Chinese tradition behind why we wear the ring on that finger better though:

put your hands together, palm to palm.

now separate your palms so you are touching just finger to finger

add some pressure

Your thumbs represent your grandparents.  They will die and leave you.  Notice that you are able to separate these fingers.

Your forefingers represent your parents.  We leave them when we are married to start our own family.  Notice that you can separate these fingers.

Your middle fingers represent your old, single life-the life you left behind to be happily married.  Notice that you can separate these fingers.

Your pinky fingers represent the children that you will have.  The children that will eventually leave you to start families of their own.  Notice that you can separate these fingers.

You ring fingers represent you and your husband, bound by marriage.  In this position, you cannot separate these fingers, representing the strength of the bond you made.

That is why you wear a ring on the 4th finger.

The ring is simply symbolic, not mandatory.  You do not need to wear one if you do not want to.  But if you want one, and don't want to spend a lot of money, why don't you try to go to Target or Macy's or something along those lines and just get something to hold the place on your finger?  

Answer 6

Yes, absolutely, especially for newly married couples. The wedding ring is to be worn at the 4th finger on the left hand for both guys and girls. That is the general practice. I am not too sure for Nigeria though.

Answer 7

no, wedding rings are not necessary. in old times people used the words of a priest as a sign of being wed and from that point on you were married . Also some people get rings tatooed so i imagine that having an engagement ring or wedding ring isn't all that important. i mean in the beginning there were no rings made so this practice has only been around since the 13th century, so don't worry about it unless you really feel that its important to you. XD

Answer 8

no they are not necessary but if you would like one. you will have to bring it up. maybe go mall walking and go to a jewelry store and strike up a conversation.

Answer 9

Rings are a custom, not required.

Answer 10

well, they are definitely a traditional and cultural thing.  for one, it shows everyone around you that you are a married man or woman. it also is supose to symbolize your commitment to each other; a ring being a circle, and a circle symbolizing 'eternity' in that it has no edges and never ends.  so, never-ending love.

Answer 11

It is a CUSTOM, a TRADITION, a SYMBOL - it is in no way something anyone HAS to have.  I gave my husband my Great Grandfathers wedding ring, and he gave me a simple band we bought for less than $150.00.  We wear them as a SYMBOL of our commitment to each other.

I admit I like the idea of getting tattoos! Maybe we will do that too!  

Answer 12

Rings aren't required.

I know a couple that got tatoos instead!

But still, all that matters is your love!

Answer 13

Rings are not required...it's a tradition...

Answer 14

For me wedding rings are necessary, because it is the symbol of the bond of marriage. Certainly, the circle of a ring represents undying love and the continually renewed vows of of the married people, thats deep?!!