What can or should I do?

Question

One day I was over at my sister-in-law's house. She had to go buy some cake for her party. I decided to stay at her place and look after the children. Her oldest daughter is 13 y.o.and she was having a sleepover with her cousin who is 11 y.o.. Her cousin is also a girl. So I decided to check on them and ask them if they needed anything. I went into their room without knocking and I saw them kissing and "doing stuff" to each other. They got scared and I talked to them. Apperantly they knew her mom left but they didn't know I was staying. I didn't ask them why they did what they did. They had gotten caught before too, but they were younger then. I think 7y.o. and 9y.o. But there was a big fight and they weren't alowwed to meet eachother alone. I don't think I should tell their parents. Or should I? I know if I don't, they will continue doing so. What should I do?

Please help. Thank you in advance. =)

Answer 1

I would talk to the parents privately about what happened. I would not make a big deal out of it but I would suggest no more sleepovers.

Answer 2

Don't tell anybody.  I don't know what you told the girls, but let it be.  I don't know what would be accomplished by telling their parents.

Answer 3

You should really tell her parents, I mean if they don't know about it then who knows what could happen?! But well, If you wanna explain in detail, just tell their parents what you put on here except for the questions he-he,

anyways i think you should! If they don't know that the cousins?! WHAT?! oh sorry >.< ok well why would cousins be kissing? but just tell them what if they have the solution to the problem? but i mean they're cousins. but its not like they were like naked right? so just tell them nothing's prol'ly gunna happen so just tell them :D

Answer 4

Being a parent myself i would like to know. That way i could talk to them about it because they are obviously curious. it needs to be delt with!!! Good luck!!!  

Answer 5

I personally wouldn't mention it to the parents. I would make sure the girls know that I would be available any time if they have questions or need someone to talk to, but really.......this is normal exploration by pre-adolescent girls. It's not anything to freak out about. The "cousin" factor is probably more what startled you than anything and that's understandable. However, a lot of girl cousins who are very cloe in age are also best friends. Best friends are who girls tend to explore that kind of thing with. As long as this was MUTUAL exploration...it wasn't one girl manipulating or forcing herself on the other girl.......then as I said...I personally would treat it as one of those, "I wish I'd never seen that" kind of things and know that it really isn't unusual or deviant behavior for girls that age.

Answer 6

you have an opportunity to be a help to these girls so let them know that while you haven't told anyone what you saw that you will be willing to advise them about s*x and what they can expect in the future

Answer 7

I think that you should tell their parents because, they'll probably find out sometime, so why not just tell them now? And, if you don't tell them you'll have this hanging over your head for the rest of your life. I think the parents have a right to know this. You're also right, they'll probably continue doing that stuff. You might want to tell the parents, before things get to out of hand! Hope this helps!

Answer 8

thay are a bit young to be doing that ant thay? well i would not tell the parents its not as if thay could get pregnant so just leave them it will be fine

Answer 9

u should definately tell their parents

its ur responsibility

dont think abt the quarrels of now

think wht will happen with them in future

severe mental and physical problems

u need to tell them