What do you think of loners?

Question

I'm 17 and a loner. I feel happier when I'm alone. There is some people at school I'll talk to occasionaly, but most of them I don't like. I'm a pretty mature person and smart too. It used to depress me, but not so much anymore because I don't really pay attention to what people think. So what do you think of loners?

Answer 1

some people can be happy by themselves and i don't think anything is wrong with.

i lived alone for many years and enjoyed it. i had a friend though who didn't know how i did it, he always had a roommate or somebody.

maybe it is an insecurity thing.

Answer 2

If you are happy with the way you are, then I don't really think what anyone else thinks of the way you live your life, really matters. If others are not happy with the way you choose to live your life, that's their problem, not yours.

Answer 3

I LOVE being alone and like you, I don't like most people either. Things are never really peaceful with them once you start getting close. Before you know it people are crossing lines that they don't even realize should not be crossed and playing stupid games. It took me many experiences with people betraying my confidence before I realized that the best kept secret is the one you tell no one. I appreciate loners because they generally don't bother people and there is little to no drama to come from them. What could possibly be wrong with that? Sure, you'll find people who try to make you think that something is wrong with you and that you should get out more. Forget them. They may mean well but they're generally the ones who're being backstabbed left and right and involved in all types of worthless drama. My sister always tells me how cold, unfriendly and distant I am. She's the opposite of me. Yet she calls home every day talking about some mean thing that someone did to her-and it's usually someone she thought was her friend. Then she goes and finds new ones who do the same thing! Sometimes she forgives the backstabber and then they usually backstab her again! Don't get me wrong. I don't hate people and I'm not a hermit but I do prefer my own company and I know that I'm highly intelligent. I find useful things to occupy my time and when I want to socialize, I call a few friends. They have their issues but I know how to deal with them. Good luck to you and keep on being true to yourself.

Answer 4

I was a loner at 17. Even after 17 and before I became married I was a loner and I enjoyed it. I enjoyed not being a follower, not being in groups, attending parties or hang out spots. While they had their fun, I worked a lot. Sure, I didn't have a lot of friends, but I placed my work ethic and my studies over friends any day.

Answer 5

Being a loner is fine.  I dont think that society looks at it well but when ur cool with who u are than thats all that matters.  Not to sound corny.  But seriously loners are ok with me as long as they dont care about me or like dont talk badly behind anyones back.

Answer 6

Its not at all uncommon for people your age, who are unique and intelligent to perfer being alone to the crowd.  There is nothing wrong with this so long as you do not issolate yourself when you are in need of support in the form of advise, ect.  Everyone needs to talk about their problems from time to time.  However, if you are happy alone that's fine.  I imagine you'll find more people you have things in common with as you get older and you encounter new people.  It happened to me.  =)

Answer 7

Its always good to have friends, theyre there to help you when your down, and just someone to hang out with. Its good to spend some alone time... but if your always alone, you never get to experience life fully.

Answer 8

I am one too and I hate it for the most part, only sometimes I appreciate it. But I wanna have more friends, unfortunately, I don't, and I probably never will, and yes people judge you negatively if you're a loner.

Answer 9

hi there, you sound just like me at 17. i'll tell you that you might think you are happy but eventually you'll need to outgrow it to a degree. i am still a loner but i'm a lot more open to making friends. i hope you will learn that sooner than i did. i found that i was more insecure as a loner as a teen because i didn't find out what my real personality was until very late. my advice is to try different things out to find out what kind of person you are. experiment with music and hobbies.

a reason i think you might feel you prefer being a loner is because the people around you appear to be very mediocre and unappreciative of your unique personality traits. i would say it's better to just let go of that sooner than later. you'll be much happier in the long run.

i'm still a loner but i'm much happier now than before because i know there are plenty of solitary outlets that suit my needs and because i didn't get there by following other people makes me even happier.

by the time you get to college, you'll probably loosen up more but it only gets better after college. college might be worse than high school so be ready for a rude awakening. in college, people who have the social skills have the power so you might be intimidated unless you learn to adapt. i wouldn't say to give in but be open to trying new things so you can at least understand the social machine instead of fearing it and internalizing your social inadequacies. that'll hurt you.

Answer 10

if you don't like those people, you don't have to have anything to do with them. there's nothing wrong with being a loner if it makes you happy. however, if you end up feeling a little empty, it wouldn't hurt to try to overlook some people's initial flaws; people can seem worse than they are before you get to know them.

Answer 11

Good for you! You're a loner. With people can only come trouble.

And to the other answer that said "Happiness is only real when shared", I beg to differ. I know people who were happier when they were alone than when they settled down with other people. I enjoy time to myself, the silence of it.

Happiness shared with family is real happiness too, though.

Answer 12

I think they should be left alone, because anything less is interfering with their pursuit of happiness. If a person is a loner, it is because they have chosen to be, and that choice should be respected, anything less is harassment. ;-)

Answer 13

i think people should stop hating the loved

and start loving the hated :)

and you mentioned you were smart

sometimes i feel the way you do

without sounding cocky, i feel like im above people in my grade sometimes

*dont dumb yourself down to fit in with the crowd*

Answer 14

Happiness only real when shared