What is wrong with this lady?

Question

Well my fiance had just informed his ex-wife that I am pregnant and she is going crazy. She left me a nasty message calling me a tramp? Which is baffling to me. I am far from a tramp. She told him that I was addicted to crack because I was skinny and I have been wearing a hat. She said the reason for the hat is because I have no hair?lol... actually it is because my roots are REALLY bad..My hair is past my shoulders. She is really starting to tick me off, what business is it of hers? They have 3 children together but my fiance is a great dad, and pays his child support every week. So I do not understand why this bothers her so much. I almost think she is jealous..why? I have no idea, but when me and my fiance first got together she kept trying to make moves on him when he would go to pick the kids up. Maybe she is mad that they got divorced, but she is the one who had the affair? I do not know. However, I do not appreciate her calling and harassing me. I do not like confrontation but she is really pushing me. What do you guys think? Should I ignore this? I am going to have to deal with her for a long time...

Answer 1

I would ignore her she sounds immature and jealous. If you ignore her she will get bored cuz its not bothering you and she will hopefully stop. dont go down to her level

Answer 2

she is just jealous and doesnt like seeing him with another woman .. she feels he should be with her and noone else.. she wants him to focus his attention to her and not you

just ignore her , she isnt worth it .. she is only the mother of his other children but you have the rest of forever with him..

he is your man not hers so dont waste your time getting angry she wants you to so dont give her tht satisfaction

Answer 3

Jealous.  Maybe your husband could have a talk with her.  

Answer 4

it's most definitely jealousy.  That's why she's lying about you and causing trouble. He divorced her and is now with you. She obviously can't let it go.  You can't entirely blame her (think about if the situations were reversed) BUT there is a line in which should not be crossed. this woman is obviously disregarding that line.

See if your fiance can have a chat with her. If not, YOU talk to her.

Next time she calls, put her in her place.  And make sure to tell him what she's doing and why you told her off.

Her behaviour sounds like part of the reason he ditched her. Good for him ... attitudes and behaviours like that are ridiculous and inappropriate for a grown woman.  It sounds like she's the one with issues, not you.

xD

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Answer 5

you should tell her her ex had AIDs and she might want to get a test done.

Answer 6

To be honest she's flat out jealous because they broke up and since you have him now she is less than happy to have your presence around him. Just ignore her she's going to have to deal with it if she harms anyone in the family like physical then you can get the police involved but other than that deal with it and she can't do nothing but annoy you.

Answer 7

She's jealous.  She thought she could steal him back and she thinks it will be harder to do if you're having a baby.  The very best thing you can do is ignore her, and the best thing your fiance can do is tell her firmly to back off because he's never getting back with her.

Answer 8

OMG!!! I have the exact same situation to a tee!! It is because she is jealous, and she hates the fact that you and your fiance are happy and are building a life together. My husbands ex sent me text message telling me that just because I can lay on my back doesn't mean that I'm a parent. It's so pathetic.

My husband and I have found that the best thing to do is simply ignore her all together, and parade how good your life together is. What ever you do, do not bring yourself down to her level.

She is probably also upset because the kids are spending time with you, and she would be thinking that you are trying to take them away from her, and moving in on her territory.

My Husband's ex tried saying in court (he is fighting for custody because she is abusive) that he and I are conspiring against her to take her kids away from her for good.

When she sends you messages, or talks to you, or is harassing you, simply have a laugh to yourself and think about how good your life is, and how happy you and your fiance are, and how miserable and lonely she must be to have the time to try and make you and him miserable, instead of trying to make herself happy. If she calls, don't answer, if she text messages you, ignore it.

If it gets really bad, just apply for a restraining order to stop her from contacting you unless it is an emergency involving the kids.

Good luck with everything, but unfortunately, I don't think it will stop anytime soon, my husband and I have been married for 3 years, and it is worse than ever.