What should I do? Family Problems ?

Question

Ok so my mom was working in the jails as a teacher and then she met this guy that was in jail and she was teaching him and then she started to fall for him, they started dating when he got out of jail ( they still wont tell me what he was in for but he has like this huge scar on his leg) This was ok with me because she usally just goes out with the guy and then never see's him again. But then she brought him home and said that he was going to start living with us. (I was an only child at the time and 10 years old) This kinda creeped me out. At the time I tended to get into alot of fights with my mom (often phyical) This guy( Im just going to call him Bob) was a drunk and they fought alot but then they both started to fight with me. (physicaly) My mom got pregnent about 6 months into the relanship. And she had a kid. Then Bobs kid from a previous relanship ran away from home and came and found bob. (calling the kid joe) Joe lived with us for a little while. Then the cops came and took him away. He came back and then the cops came and took him away again. All the while they were fighting. My mom kicked him out a couple of times and filed a few restraining orders but she always managed to let him come back into our lives. They had another kid togther and me and my moms fighting got even worse( I was about 12 at the time) My mom kicked bob out again. And she promiced that i would never have to see him agian. One day they had a fight and he stole her van and drove drunk all the way to Alberta (we were currently livin in Manitoba) The RCMP stopped him in a small town named Medicine Hat. The RCMP brought back our van eventually. But then Bob contaced her by phone and they started talking and then she looked up Medicine Hat online and decided that she was going to move our entire family out to Alberta. I stayed with my grandmother so that I could finish off the school year in the same school. But then they forced me to move out to Alberta no matter how many times i pleaded to stay. Now she has kicked him out again and once again promiced that I would never have to see him again. Then he moved to B.C and they are once again talking to each other. My biological dad came into the picture and now im considering running away because me and my mom keep on fighting and it is getting more and more physical. What should I do? I want the best for both me and my sisters.

By the way at this point I am 13years old.

Answer 1

Don't let your mother do  that to you and your sisters! What she is letting happen is abuse, and it's also abuse that no members of your family have reported this. Talk to the police abot this. I'm 14 and i have a friend going through something similar.

Answer 2

You are so young to be going through all of this turmoil. If your real dad is willing to take you I would try to have him let you move in with him. You mom sounds too unstable and I'm surprised she hasn't had her other kids taken away from all the domestic violence going on.

You shouldn't have to be in an unsafe home afraid. Do you have anyone you can talk to about this maybe your grandmother? I wouldn't run away it isn't safe these days too many people out to hurt young kids. As bad as it seems at home at least you have a place to sleep. On the run you may not have a safe place to stay or food. If things are so bad then consider talking to a school counselor and maybe having them contact an agency to get you into a better more stable home.

Answer 3

Thais is going to sound harsh, but I think you should talk to the police and see if there is any way that you and your sisters can be placed in foster care. Your family life is abusive and this is not healthy for you at all. The police will have people that understand these types of problems and will know what is best for you all. Just be honest with them, and don;t hold anything back for the sake of your mother. She isn't looking out for you so you have to be the one to do it. Hope you can get some help, and don't be afraid, there are people in this world who are here to take care of you. Peace, and I will keep you in my prayers.