What should my next move be?

Question

So i went out with this girl for almost 3 years. About a month ago she said she needed time, bacause all we ever did was argue, and i didnt treat her right. Which is true. But while on that break for like 3 weeks i never gave her space, and she broke up with me for real about 2 weeks ago. I talked to her today for the first time since the breakup. I small talked, and said lets just be friends, she said ok just friends. I want her back, but i no i need to take it slow. What are some things I should say or do to make this happen?

Answer 1

I admire you for wanting to make things better to get her back.  Firstly, you need to respect her and treat her right.  If this is an issue with you, perhaps you need to consider counselling to see why you are not treating her well.

Secondly, make sure that you want her back for the right reasons.  Many times, after a long relationships, people want to stay with others because of habit and comfort but not because of love.  

Perhaps it wouldn't be a bad idea for you to give it a bit more time all the while working on yourself and your treatment toward her as friends only.

Time will tell...good luck

Answer 2

lol i consider you to be a selfish person, it's really hard for you to change, but yea if you want to let her some space, it will take long . do not rush things too hard. (you should just stay as friends for now)