What to do about this.....????

Question

Ok i found out that i might be pregant, by my ex. And all he can say is to get ride of it no matter what i have to do. Wheather i have to kill it or give it up for adoption in the future. He does not seem to care. I tell him that i can rise it myself and that i mange. But he tells me that i am being stupid and that i should give it up for adoption just so they can have a better life and be spoiled. But i think i can manage to rise this kid by myself. I just do not know what to do about him and how to show him that i can?? I need help on knowing how to do this.

Answer 1

You are the one who's pregnant; this is your decision and no one should tell you what to do.  If you are sure you want to keep your baby and raise him/her, and if you have a support system and a realistic plan for parenting, then that's what you should do.  But the father should not be allowed to escape his responsibilities in this situation.  At the very least, he owes his child financial support for the next 18 years.  Get a lawyer and make sure he pays.

Answer 2

If you do wnt this child then you can do this by yourself. If he doesn't want thing to do with the child then cut him out of your life completely if you choose to keep it, he will only make things harder on you in the furture. Be sure this is what you want though. I'm gainst abortion, but there are alot of peope out there waiting for a child through adoption. But again, if you want this child, thenyou keep it and raise it yourself. A child doesn't have to be spoiled to have a great life.. All it needs is a loving home with a parent or parents who care and are willing to be completely involved in their life. Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

First, you say you "might" be pregnant.  First and foremost find out if you are and how far along you are.  

Second, considering you are referring to this baby as "it" (an inanimate object) and "kid" (a baby goat) I'm wondering if you yourself are old enough to fully and completely understand what raising a child entails.  The money, the time, the patience etc. . .

Third, if your boyfriend so easily wants to dispose of this baby (if you are pregnant) then what is going to stop him from disposing of you in the future when he feels that you are weighing him down or become a hindrance?

Answer 4

Girl, do not listen to him.  He sounds like an inconsiderate........anyway.  If you get an abortion or give this baby up for adoption against your will, you will regret it.  Your consensios will bother you.  Do what you want. Don't care what he says.  Tell him if he does not want anything to do with the baby to sign his rights over and you will do it on your own.

Answer 5

Honey , you do not need a man to raise a child! I have not had expierence as a single mom but I have watched my sisters do it! If you want that baby, then have it. But be sure, if you do not want him to have anything to do with it DO NOT put his name on the birth cert. That way one dya down the road you may find a really great guy that takes in you both then he can adopt. But if you do want him to be apart, even if he does not want to that baby has his blood and by law he wil have to pay!!!! Well god luck and congradulations

Answer 6

He's your ex right?  Why do you have to show him that you can raise your child on your own?  If you know you can do it then do it and don't give him a second thought.

Answer 7

Don't listen to him. You do what you want and if you want to raise the child, do it, don't let him get in your way. There are a lot of single mothers that made it on their own and have raised wonderful children. Good luck!