What to do for anniversary?

Question

Our 5 year anniversary is coming up this month and we are in sort of a pickle... we want to do something romantic like a weekend get away or something BUT our son isn't comfortable staying at our friends house and we know we will end up getting a call in the middle of the night SO.. my question is what can we do that will help with both situations.. we have considered bringing him along but that kind of defeats the purpose .. btw he is 12.. I know I shouldn't be upset about not being able to go ahead with our plans ( we were going to get a hotel room locally just for a mini stay away) but I am.. my husband devotes 110% of his time to our son and that doesn't leave much for me and this year has been extremely hard with a few deaths in the family .. I am at a loss of what to do to make our anniversary special AND somehow include our son's care.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

don't include your son.  you deserve to have an anniversary alone and he needs to learn that not everything revolves around him.  the mom and dad have to be the center of life for the family to survive.  so set aside the guilt and have a wonderful anniversary WITHOUT your child.

my suggestion for an 'event' would be to make an appointment for couples massages (complete with campaign and chocolate covered strawberries) and then go to the melting pot (if there is one in your area) for dinner.  get a babysitter for the evening.  son will be fine.

Answer 3

I would suggest that yes, you get a room close to where your son will be and explain that he will be spending the night at (so and so's) but, he will be coming to spend "most" of the day with you and daddy at the motel to swim and have supper and then he will be going back to so and so's for the rest of the weekend.

It's a fair thing- everyone should be happy as you are comprimising. If the 12 yr old doesn't like that it's toooo bad! Tell him his only other choice is for you to go "out of town" and he will not be able to even spend the afternoon with you!

Answer 4

tell you kid to suck it up!!! 12 he is old enough to go over a friends......talk to him and tell him how important it is for you and your hubby to have alone time together because you have to remember that your were husband and wife before you were mom and dad. Being husband and wife is the foundation of you and your hubby being mom and dad and if you don't keep that foundation sound you will not be able to be a good mom and dad. Also you can tell him that he will get an anniversary gift from you if he is good at his friends house.....ask the friends parents for their help tell them how important this is for your relationship and maybe they can plan an up all night party for the boys filled with popcorn and movies and lots and lots of junk food (the kids always fall asleep).........you can do this if you really really want to be creative...this is important for you and your hubby.......i hope this helps  

Answer 5

well, can your son stay at a family members place, or his friends place for the weekend?