What would you do if your...?

Question

13 year old daughter came home with a hickey from going the fair with her friends (girls and boys)?

Answer 1

it's fine.  leave her be.  she is a teenager now.  that hickey is just a precursor of what is to come.  

i like the embarrassing her idea too.

Answer 2

You can't do anything because the damage is already done.  I would just embarrass her.  My sister was 18 and came home with them.  She got so embarrassed when anyone said anything about it and I think that is the best punishment.  Good luck.

Answer 3

leave her to it shes 13 its grand

Answer 4

if you try and ground her or do anything about it she won't trust you. she's entering her teenage years and at 13 you really need to have a good relationship with your daughter, you don't want her to hate you over the next few years, and if you over react to something like this, that's exactly the kinda thing which will turn her against you. if you want to continue having a good relationship with her over the next few years, you've got to trust her and not be too overprotective.

Answer 5

Angie, "she" didn't get a hickey from going to the fair. She got it from making out with some boy.

If I gave my 13-year-old permission to go to the fair unsupervised with her friends, and she came back home with a hickey, there'd be no opportunity for her to get another hickey anytime soon. She'd be grounded. That's what happens when you abuse trust.

Answer 6

Talk to her and ground her for a weekend. She's too young for that.

Answer 7

pick up a belt and send her to an all girls CATHOLIC school o and embarrass  her like go to her school and bring new underwear 4 her to put on and say it really loud in her class i bet she won't do it again

Answer 8

Honestly? It's just a hickey.

I'm 13. I have both guy and girls friends. People make out and occasionally get hickeys, it happens. I mean, at 13 you're really becoming a teenager and sometimes that means your going to end up with a hickey.

My best advice is get a little foundation, sure she has a hickey but that doesn't mean everyone has to see it. Also, it might be a good time to have the s*x talk. I advise telling her you don't care if she's making out with guys (it will show her you trust her) but tell her anything more than that is not okay at her age.

Answer 9

uh, yeah most of my trust would be gone. i mean if she told me she went to a fair with her firends where did she get the hickey? was she making out behind some carnival ride or did she leave the fair with some boy? you dont know for sure. There are too many kids now doing things at younger ages and i would be watching my daughter a bit more closely. we actually had this problem with my brother, he's 13 (i'm 5 years older than he is) he came round with a hickey himself and there were no more outings with his girlfriend by himself if he said he was goign to be somewhere we ( my sister and i we tend to parent our brothers becasue our parents work so much) would check up. we werent about to have anythign bad happen if we could help it.

Answer 10

It will happen, eventually. I wouldn't worry much into it.

If you don't pressure her into telling you, she'll feel more open.

Butt.... Just go up to her and say if you ever feel like you need to talk to me about a boy or anything you can.  

Answer 11

1- dont make a huge deal about it, #2 talk open and honestly about s*x and how her father and I feel about her making out. I'd also urge her to wait for s*x but discuss birth control options shoud she choose to disobey us. I'd also educate her on what is not birth control, i.e. the "pull out method".