When our "babies" start school?

Question

How long does the sadness last when our "babies" start school. When the time just slips on by and they go from walking to us for the first time to walking away from us with their little backpacks on : ( I know time must move on and things must change, but how long does the heavyness on the heart last? Forever, it seems that way! I am very excited and happy, but very sad and emotional at the same time. Happy that he is venturing out into the world but yet sad that he is growing up so fast. I will be bawling like a baby his first day I just KNOW it. I am not strong enough to hold back the tears. I don't want hi to see this as a bad thing at all. I don't think he will fully understand why I cry. I also worry as well, that I will worry about him the whole time he is gone to school. I can't help it. I have been a stay at home mom and have been there at every moment helping and teaching him, now it will just be me and my baby girl that is 2. Any advice for me? Maybe a different perspective or story you could share? Thanks so much......XoXo...One worried Mama = (

Answer 1

Is it gonna be hard? You bet

How long will it last? Well, that's up to you. This may sound a little insensitive but you'll have to pull yourself together and be strong.

And for God's sake don't cry in front of him in his first day at school!

You are going to scare the c**p out of him!

He is going to have a hard enough time being away from home, in a new place and with people he doesn't know. The worst thing you can do is to break down right at the moment when he needs some reassurance from you.

It is going to be tough... but that's a parent's job.

Answer 2

Its a bitter-sweet thing. On the one hand, you must teach your child to be independent in their life. It is very important later on. Also the social skills they learn now are the whole reason for them even going.  Did you know that most children who are later identified to be gifted almost all went to preschool. Don't be selfish and only think of yourself. They will grow up, and I know I wish I could make all my children a baby again just for 1 day, just to know who really is cutest. But they will always be your child and you have to  encourage them at school. You dont want them to grow up always needing someone else in their life to be complete do you?

Answer 3

O god I am fighting back the tears just thinking about it and my son is only 3. I have stayed home with him his whole life it'll be an adjustment that's for sure. Although I know he will like school. Kindergarten is all about making friends and being creative seeing how much he likes it will probably make you feel better. Good luck sounds scary..

Answer 4

Well, before I say anything, I'm not a mother, just a teen with some helpful answers.

I know a lot because my mother teared up, and almost cried in front of all my friends at the bus stop when I had my first day of Kindergarten. I can see how tough it is for her to be a mom because she has four daughters. My youngest sister, my mama's last child just graduated from Kindergarten last year. She told me that since I'm old enough to understand now, that her last little baby is growing up. That means no more cuddling with the baby, no more tickling, or feeding, or no more being with her for every second. But, she told me that one day, when we've perished, no matter what we believe in religously, that we will be together. And that's the important thing.

That's my story, now my mother got a job when her youngest child went to first grade. It helped get her mind off of the pain, and focus on the important thing. You'll still be with your child all of the time. and they'll always love you.

hope i helped?!?

Answer 5

I understand where you are cumming from.  I'm a stay at home mom too.  My little boy started school on Monday.  I do worry and I am very lonely some times.  I don't have my little side kick.  But with every day that passes it has gotten easier.  Not much but it has.  When I pick him up from school and see how happy he is.  It almost makes it all worth it!  I don't know if the heaviness  on the heart goes away or even the worry.  We are parents and that is what we do.  My mom and dad still worry about me.  Being a parent is full of emotions.