When you miss someone?

Question

and you get that 'I can't bear this anymore' kind of feeling how do you deal with it??

Answer 1

I write what I feel and I gather strength in reflection and prayer.

Answer 2

aww...

i just cry and talk 2

Allah

Answer 3

A clean. Seriously, it's a good distracter.

Answer 4

i go to them.

if its about love then  walk the earth to be with them.

i did

Answer 5

stop thinking about them and keep yourself busy!

or go see them

Answer 6

ugh its the most horrible feeling, i spent 2 years without my DH, and i used to sob into my pillow....sad times. :'(

Just busy yourself with other family members, jobs.

Btw i kept a written journal and that really help me channel my feelings. Just a suggestion.

Hugs to you x*x

Answer 7

I find that if I think too much about someone I end up missing them even more than I did to begin with. So to dull the pain as it were, I keep myself busy with loads of other things. Time passes more quickly when you are having fun.  

Answer 8

I look at pictures of them. I sing little lullaby songs in my head about them and go loony.

Answer 9

eat and eat and eat and eat!

lol well since this is the month of ramadan all thats left for  u to do is

cry and cry and cry and cry!

Answer 10

I busy myself finding things to do around the house usually, sleep.. Wake up and do the same, a lot of things get done.. Puts the bad time to good use  

Answer 11

keep yourself busy

Answer 12

pray to god...

Answer 13

I can't. I shut myself in my room and cry where no one can see me.

It's a horrible feeling. I know the feeling very well and I know exactly what your going through.

Answer 14

salam sweety...

Al-Hashr

In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful

All that is in the heavens and all that is in the earth glorifieth Allah, and He is the Mighty, the Wise. (1) He it is Who hath caused those of the People of the Scripture who disbelieved to go forth from their homes unto the first exile. Ye deemed not that they would go forth, while they deemed that their strongholds would protect them from Allah. But Allah reached them from a place whereof they recked not, and cast terror in their hearts so that they ruined their houses with their own hands and the hands of the believers. So learn a lesson, O ye who have eyes! (2) And if Allah had not decreed migration for them, He verily would have punished them in the world, and theirs in the Hereafter is this punishment of the Fire. (3) That is because they were opposed to Allah and His messenger; and whoso is opposed to Allah, (for him) verily Allah is stern in reprisal. (4) Whatsoever palm-trees ye cut down or left standing on their roots, it was by Allah's leave, in order that He might confound the evil-livers. (5) And that which Allah gave as spoil unto His messenger from them, ye urged not any horse or riding-camel for the sake thereof, but Allah giveth His messenger lordship over whom He will. Allah is Able to do all things. (6) That which Allah giveth as spoil unto His messenger from the people of the townships, it is for Allah and His messenger and for the near of kin and the orphans and the needy and the wayfarer, that it become not a commodity between the rich among you. And whatsoever the messenger giveth you, take it. And whatsoever he forbiddeth, abstain (from it). And keep your duty to Allah. Lo! Allah is stern in reprisal. (7) And (it is) for the poor fugitives who have been driven out from their homes and their belongings, who seek bounty from Allah and help Allah and His messenger. They are the loyal. (8) Those who entered the city and the faith before them love those who flee unto them for refuge, and find in their b*****s no need for that which hath been given them, but prefer (the fugitives) above themselves though poverty become their lot. And whoso is saved from his own avarice - such are they who are successful. (9) And those who came (into the faith) after them say: Our Lord! Forgive us and our brethren who were before us in the faith, and place not in our hearts any rancour toward those who believe. Our Lord! Thou art Full of Pity, Merciful. (10) Hast thou not observed those who are hypocrites, (how) they tell their brethren who disbelieve among the People of the Scripture: If ye are driven out, we surely will go out with you, and we will never obey anyone against you, and if ye are attacked we verily will help you. And Allah beareth witness that they verily are liars. (11) (For) indeed if they are driven out they go not out with them, and indeed if they are attacked they help them not, and indeed if they had helped them they would have turned and fled, and then they would not have been victorious. (12) Ye are more awful as a fear in their bosoms than Allah. That is because they are a folk who understand not. (13) They will not fight against you in a body save in fortified villages or from behind walls. Their adversity among themselves is very great. Ye think of them as a whole whereas their hearts are divers. That is because they are a folk who have no sense. (14) On the likeness of those (who suffered) a short time before them, they taste the ill-effects of their own conduct, and theirs is painful punishment. (15) (And the hypocrites are) on the likeness of the devil when he telleth man to disbelieve, then, when he disbelieveth saith: Lo! I am quit of thee. Lo! I fear Allah, the Lord of the Worlds. (16) And the consequence for both will be that they are in the Fire, therein abiding. Such is the reward of evil-doers. (17) O ye who believe! Observe your duty to Allah. And let every soul look to that which it sendeth on before for the morrow. And observe your duty to Allah. Lo! Allah is Aware of what ye do. (18) And be not ye as those who forgot Allah, therefor He caused them to forget their souls. Such are the evil-doers. (19) Not equal are the owners of the Fire and the owners of the Garden. The owners of the Garden, they are the victorious. (20) If We had caused this Qur'an to descend upon a mountain, thou (O Muhammad) verily hadst seen it humbled, rent asunder by the fear of Allah. Such similitudes coin We for mankind that haply they may reflect. (21) He is Allah, than Whom there is no other God, the Knower of the Invisible and the Visible. He is the Beneficent, Merciful. (22) He is Allah, than Whom there is no other God, the Sovereign Lord, the Holy One, Peace, the Keeper of Faith, the Guardian, the Majestic, the Compeller, the Superb. Glorified be Allah from all that they ascribe as partner (unto Him). (23) He is Allah, the Creator, the Shaper out of naught, the Fashioner. His are the most beautiful names. A

Answer 15

i contact them

i cry

i make duaa

i eat icecrem or any sweets

i work out

if all else fails

i just close my eyes and sleep for as long as i can

Answer 16

sleep

Answer 17

Call them if you can.

Answer 18

If you can, call them and talk to them or keep busy in things that would divide your attention. Its alot that kind of feeling, in the beginning but I hope its soon over as you get busy to your life as it's now

Always asking their heath will give you strength, from Allah.

I hope Inshallah you feel better.

Answer 19

Call, email, skype then if you can.  If not write to them even if you can't send it, take a note pad and write down how you're feeling, without them, what you love/like about them, what thing(s) you miss most about them and what you'll do when they re back with you. Write about how you spend your days, ask them how they are (of course) and generally "chat" as though they are there with you.  Afterwards you'll feel a whole lot better,  Do this every-time you feel down and lonely it will help.

Hope you have a good weekend ;-)

Answer 20

It is very hard ,

I cry like a baby

Answer 21

I write down everything I want to say to that person, whether there are ever going to see it or not. Its for me, not for them.  

Answer 22

I don't know, I guess I'd cry or maybe I'd talk to someone who misses them as much to relieve myself.

It hurts sometimes, and it's even worse if you know the person's gone to Heaven....

Man, why'd you have to ask a question like this now...nah, jk, it's fine.

Good question btw.

Answer 23

i'm sorry, but what does this have to do with ramadan? i will answer your question however. give them a call, attempt to visit them. send them a letter, e-mail! there are all kinds of methods. leave space in your mind with other things as well however. take up sports and activities to distract yourself.