Where Do I Turn..?

Question

im 14, im really worried about what is going on in my life right now, i do go to counsilling && im on a program for depressed teens.. one night with my cousins we got high && she invited these guys over && i slept with one (protected) i didnt really know what was going on, not to mention that we had drunk a bit before that,thats when i started smoking pot. I had some weird cramps about 2 weeks after the s*x, but i didnt think it was anything major. Then my periods didnt come but around 3 weeks ago i had spotting, i didnt know if it was periods or something to do with a pregnancy. I am having a guess that their is a chance i am pregnant. But i cannot turn to my parents (drop dead strict) && i cannot get help of my friends because they already think im an attention seeker because i used to self harm.. not so much anymore. Im finding it really hard to do this because i cant just go to my local clinic because my dad will wanna know where im going.. can somone please tell me what to do?

Answer 1

just tell your parents. i found out i was pregnant when i was sixteen at a regular gyno visit, while my mother sat in the waiting room... also very strict parents. knowing they would be displeased... i decided, how bad can it be. so when my visit was over, still in dis-belief, i ran out to the waiting room... and blurted out "im preganant" my moms jaw dropped... and she reasured me my father was going to kill me... i stayed out of the house for a week (at my mothers request) while she broke the news to my father... when i came home... my dad was upset, but was taking things pretty well... sadly, i lost that baby... i had not been healthy, which played a part... but low and behold... at 23, i became a mother... i was still an unwed mother... which also did not please anyone... but you wouldnt know it now... they are so in-love with their grandgirl! not everything you do will please your family... but thats life... nobody is perfect... and things do work out... stay strong, for yourself and for your baby... your a mother already, and protecting that baby is your job... congratulations!!!

Answer 2

Go to the doctors, and just tell your mom that you have been getting really bad cramps, and your last period was spotting, you don't have to be open about the s*x, unless you feel you can talk to her.  That way the doctor can check for STDs also.  Your body is changing, your only 14, it could be nothing.  Stay away from the drug and alcohol...and the people that do it at your age.  The kids that did that stuff when I was in jr. high, turned out to be losers.  You have plenty of time to experiment with alcohol.  Stay away from the drugs.  There is nothing cool about it.  Good Luck!

Answer 3

Ok, you need to get hold of a pregnancy test to start with - can you go into town easily and go and buy a cheap one from Wilkinsons or something? If that is impossible, then you need to get to the clinic - if it means telling a little lie and saying you're going to a friend's house then so be it. There is no point stressing your parents out about it because considering the s*x was protected, you may well be fine.  Could your counsellor help you out at all with this one? Or find a trusted older person to help you who won't tell your parents? A school nurse? Stop smoking the pot now - quit whilst your ahead as if you smoke that stuff too much you'll turn into a (very paranoid) loser. As you are going through a bad time & you are still very young, your body may not be in a routine with periods yet - when did you start - was it recently? Also, with the depression, do you eat properly? Anorexia etc can stop your periods.  The self-harm bit is not for attention but you can't expect kids your age to understand that - I used to get the same thing. Self-harm is actually the only alternative very depressed people have to suicide - they don't want to die, that's why they do it - its a survival method. There are lots of good websites out there for help with understanding self harm. Message me if you need more advice - I was once a very depressed and unhappy teenager myself so am happy to advise where I can!  Hopefully it is just a blip and you are not pregnant. x

Answer 4

You are either going to have to suck it up and talk to your parents (I'm a very strict parent, but would want my daughter to tell me), or when you go out with your friends, pick up a pregnancy test and take it at home.  Good luck to you.

Answer 5

well...

im 15

and im pregnant.

what i did was waited to c if my period came...i just had spotting. than it still didnt come so i bought a pregnancy test. actually a 2 pack. took one one day and the next the next morning. i didnt tell my mom until both tests were positive.

so if ur period is late and u think ur pregnant. even though your probably not because you used protection, buy a test. and then when u actually have to, tell ur parents. or hav a friend take you to a clinic. just dont tell them where your going.i didnt wanna tell my parents until i was absolutely sure...so yea.

Answer 6

Got any other family you could speak to?

Answer 7

You need to take a home pregnancy test.

But you really need to get over being scared and tell your parents!! They will help you! You need their support and help right now.

You may think that it will go bad.. yes they will upset and disappointed but I think they will be more angry if you don't put your trust in them.

For your baby you need to talk to them, or even a trust adult at school or another family member that you trust, like an Aunt.

What about telling your counselor?

Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 8

**You're probably going to have little choice but to speak to your parents.  If you can, make an appointment at the doctors and see if you can find out that way or buy a home pregnancy test.

If it does turn out that you're pregnant you're going to have little choice but to tell your parents.**

Answer 9

You need to get a pregnancy test from the shops they are cheap and you can do it in the toilets at the shops so no chance that your parents will find the evidence.

If you are pregnant you need to tell your parents.

You might think that they are strick but they love you and only want the best for you.

I was 17 when got pregnant and I had to tell my mum and we weren't even living together and she asked me if I wanted to come home. (I thought she would never talk to me again)

Answer 10

When you go to the store, maybe Walmart. You can use the self-checkout aisle and buy a home pregnany test. If you are pregant sit the parent down that is the most non-strict and be like "I have made a mistake, I am pregnant"...

Good Luck, Girl.