Where to draw the line?

Question

When do you cross the line from hoping to get pregnant to convincing yourself you are. It seems every month Ive convinced myself I was pregnant only to be heart broken...I dont know where that line is drawn and i honestly cant go through the heart break anymore.

Answer 1

It is best to just relax, it always happens when you least expect it! Just have fun!

Answer 2

I think I am a few step ahead of you. I have been trying for the last two years. It is easy to say, you need to stop thinking about it and enjoy the baby dancing. No matter how you run it is always in the back of your mind. For me I stopped the preggo tests!  I do ov test strips to see when I ovulate they are ok.  I also chart. So I can guess that my period is going to come before I get it! The insight is nice to have when you chart.

I hate to be that person who states that you should get the book "take charge of you fertility"! you will learn soooooo much about your self and you cycles every month.

BEfore I rea the book I was on here asking everyone questions, but now I just look in my book! I get it there!

I will ask a question here or there but not as much as I used to.

I don't know how long you have been trying but when you have tryed for 2 years I can say it gets easier and harder!  It get easier because you expect your period and kind of lose the hope, but then it is harder because all of your friend are or were preggo. It hurts! a lot!

good luck!  

Answer 3

I am going threw the exact same thing dear, the best thing that some one told me was to forget about it , just remember how fun baby dancing is and how much you love the other ones in your life.

It will happen and we have to think positive and some times that means not thinking of it at all.

I would take a test 5 days before my monthly was due just to end up crying for days , it didnt make me feel better so i had to stop that and stop taking ovulation tests as well . Best of luck  

Answer 4

i think that you should just take your mine off of it and it will happen when you least except it 80% of pregnancies were not planned  

Answer 5

I completely understand what you mean. I had a triphasic char this month and my temps were so good and then yesterday12dpo my temp dropped drastically and then i spotted last night and af started today. I was soooo depressed yesterday i cried hysterically(poor dh) and today i have cried a few times. I dont want to stop trying because it gives me less hope that it will happen but then when i see that my chart looks so good i get my hopes up and then get let down. My husband thinks i should quit charting and using my cbfm and just see what happens, and in 6mos if we still arent pg then we will go get a sperm ananlysis...I dont know what to do...i think i will have to talk to him when af is gone otherwise i will be a blubbering mess lol Good luck hun in whatever you decide, we are all here with you and if you ever need any encouragement or advice you can email me [e-mail]

Good luck and tons of babydust!!!