Who you are is not acceptable...?

Question

That's what my mom told me today. I can't tell her I'm a L*****n because then it would be an abonination.. I'm so afraid that it will be the last thing that she will say to me. And it will reck what little relastionship we have. She would kick me outa the house and I am only 16. I have no idea what to do because this secret is eating me alive.

Answer 1

you are an amazing person, and your sexuality doesn't change who you are as a person.  How can who you are not be acceptable-is our society that bad that there is now a standard of acceptability-no way.  As long as you do your best each day and give your best shot at things your doing great.  I think you need to talk to her about the way she speaks to you, let her know it hurts you, write a letter if you don't feel you can initiate a conversation like that.  Let her know it hurts you and is affecting  you.  If you don't feel you can tell her your a L*****n yet, then don't.  It's not her choice whether you like guys or girls, it's not even your choice, its how you were born.  She shouldn't judge you, she's your mother.  You guys really need to talk about how she treats you.  I hope you can improve your relationship with her.  If you do decide to tell her you are a L*****n, find an alternative living situation first so you are not homeless and left alone, but i would hope she would still love and respect you, and care for you and keep you at home.

Answer 2

well, shes your mother and she should really support you for what your opinon and how you woud like to be in life are.

no matter what, sooner or later shes going to find out.

theres nothing wrong with being L*****n or g*y, its a prefernence.

you cant force someone into liking a s*x that they dont like can you?

i would talk to your mother, nice and calm, make her dinner, buy her coffee, do whatever it takes, something that she likes

and just sit and have a good understanding talk with her, im sure

she'll understand, maybe she wont right away, because it might be to much to take in for her,

but im sure she'll get it eventually, after all, your her daughter.

Answer 3

It is important to note you are perfectly normal.  

It is hard having a mum who doesnt support you.  Its hard keeping things like this from a mum, but I suggest you do keep if from your mum until you are better prepared to find your own place to live.  Whether that be in 6 months or 2 yrs.  

In the mean time how about going to see a counsellor they can help you deal with your feelings and listen to you.

Answer 4

She is ur mom and she loves u! she may not  like u but she will always love u!!and u cant hide the fact that ur a L*****n forever. i think u should just tell her.

Answer 5

Hang in there it might be hard to not tell her but i think you shouldn't tell her. You are fine though and you must always know that even if you look act dress or seem different you are you and whatever you choose to be is fine. The thing that matters most is that you are OK with yourself.Good luck and i hope this helps.Ans again hang in there!:):):):)

Answer 6

Little lady I'm not going to try to tell you how you feel, I have never been in this type of situation with any of my kids, all I can honestly tell from my heart, to pray about it.God hears all prayers, and He will help when asked, I have no right to judge you good or judge you bad, that is not my job that's God's job, all I can say is God knows your heart, he knows how you feel, ask Him for help to be able to talk to your mom, He'll help,and little lady He will not leave you, He's always right there.Ask Him, He'll answer you, someway.

Answer 7

keep it in the closet until u move out..sorry but that's the only advice I can give u if u think ur mom is going to kick u out.

Answer 8

tell her that you are L*****n and that it is not a choice, it is just who you are. By the way you say things, it sounds like she wont really understand or will need alittle time to get used to the idea so you might want to ask a family member to let you move in for a couple of days.

speak to your school cousellor and she might be able to help you fix things. Or if you have enough money you can go to therapy together because it sounds as though your mom might need it.

Answer 9

you need to have a good talk with your mom.

let her know what you feel and how you're feeling about telling her.

she's your mother and if you guys have a close relationship as you state you do, then she will support you in any way, shape, or form.

hang in there, love.

everything will be just fine.

Good luck.

Answer 10

i dont think u should tell her untill u get old enough to take care of ur self

Answer 11

This is the same exact thing that happened to my sister.

She was afraid to mostly tell my dad because he is homophobic, and thought that he would kick her out of the house because she is Bi-but since it was eating her alive like it is to you-she just told him.

He accepted her because that's his daughter you know?

I will tell you this now.

Please look at these words that will help you tell anyone on this earth that you are a L*****n:

If she loves you,

then she'll accept you.

If she doesn't accept you,

then unfortunately,

she doesn't love you.

Answer 12

dont tell your mom...she sounds very judgmental and i dont want you to get kicked out...tell a friend or someone you are close to...you shouldnt have to be alone when dealing with this. maybe eventually you could ease into telling your mom,but i wouldnt do it right now...thats just my oppinion though...that sounds like my mom and if i was a L*****n im sure she would have disowned me...good luck sweety

Answer 13

You should not tell her. If you need to tell someone, pick someone you can trust. A friend, another relative. Someone that will be there for you. This is a lot to deal with at your age and dealing with things alone can be very lonely. If you really think that she will throw you out you need to be careful. This does happen. It is terrible, a parent should love you regardless of your orientation. That is not always the case.