Why do parents do this?

Question

i understand we have to obey the rules and all that...but how come when im right and im not doing anything wrong...i get put to the side. and when im attitudy and have the right to be...why is that so bad. i feel like they take advantage of the word parent. i love my mom but shes getting me so pisSed off. i asked her to help me and it seems like it's way too hard to do. and then when i get upset...i get yelled at. how am i supposed to get better with that? she says talk to her like an adult. AND I DO. she either doesn't completely listen...or just lies next time we get into a fight and says i never talk to her the way i should YET I DO. what do i do now? i love her and we love each other but i feel like she doesn't pay attention to the things i say. and the things i care about most she knocks down.

Answer 1

you say you are talking to her like an adult. are you sure? next time you plan to talk to your mom, play the conversation in your head. think about what you want to say and try putting the emphasis in different places. sometimes all it takes is changing how you emphasize the beginning of the sentence or how you say just one word.

talk to another family member, aunt, uncle, grandparent, that can help you and your mom by mediating. choose a relative that knows your mom and knows how she can be. when i had problems communicating to my parents, my grandmother helped me by pointing out things i was doing right but that my parents weren't seeing.

being a teenager really sucks and it only gets better when you learn how do deal with things. most of all, don't get frustrated or angry when you are talking to your mom. it will speak volumes for your maturity. best of luck!

Answer 2

there are alot of ppl who come talk kinda bi$%@Y but don't know they do ... that might be the problem... just remember all she is trying to do is teach you respect and there are times right or wrong you have to just back off and do what they want.. .... just know if your mom is upset there is a reason and if she is fighting about something there is a reason right or wrong she has a reason

Answer 3

You need to explain this to your Mum.  Without yelling, without acting immature.

Sit her down and tell her you are confused and talk about it sensibly.