Why is this so stressful?

Question

I'm going for a big fairy tail wedding. I want a big beautiful designer dress,beautiful tiara and veil. I want beautiful flowers and decorations. I want all my freinds and family to be there. I'l be in a castle. My fiance wants a horse and carriage, which I think is awesome!

Anyway, it is normal to be so stressed out trying to put this all together? There's just sooo much to do it's unbelieveable! Is anyone else feeling this way?

Answer 1

I really didn't get stressed until the day of the wedding.  I planned my wedding in enough advance that I didn't feel rushed.  I also had plenty of people volunteering to help me.  It wasn't a big wedding though.  I didn't have to decorate much.

My question for you is, if you are having this huge big to-do wedding why do you not have a wedding planner.  I would think anyone have a BIG, beautiful wedding like that would have planned in there budget for a planner.  They would remove a lot of the stress from you.  Not trying to be rude, just curious.

Answer 2

Of course its stressful.  You aren't a princess with a staff to do your bidding, you just have your family and friends.  And in all probablity a budget too.

Can you be a princess of a small country instead of an Empire?

Even better can you just be a woman in love marrying her man?

You will enjoy yourself so much more if you tone things down a bit and keep it within your comfort level.

Yes to the beautiful dress and veil...the shop does most of that.

Yes to the flowers, the florist does that.

Choose a location that has beautiful decorations in place, less for you to do.

Forget the fairy tale aspect, Horses p**p at very unsatisfactory times.  And they always smell.

Then try to enjoy yourself.  Without the school play aspects.

Answer 3

I think that the reason that wedding planning regardless of who you are or what your "dream wedding" is because you are not in complete control.  You have to rely on too many other people to be as dedicated to your cause as you are, and that's rare at best.  

Answer 4

I don't know why it is but it is? I have been planning mine all year and I thought if I started early I would get the stressful part out of the way. But the truth is none of it is not stressful. People don't always come thru like they say they will. So just try to do the best you can and have a few people that you can vent to and try not to complain about it to your future husband that will help alot.

Good Luck and Congradulations!

Answer 5

Sure. You want PERFECTION. It sounds like a Barbie cartoon plot rather than a real wedding. PERFECTION needs people to strive for it. And, what's worse, PERFECTION doesn't exist, it's just an idea everyone has in his/her mind. So, regardless of your efforts, there is no PERFECTION.

Answer 6

Yes it's normal.

I'm not stressed for mine. We just bought a house a week ago and to me, that was extremely stressful!

Our wedding on Saturday will be easy compared to that!

Answer 7

Congrats! Planning a wedding - especially your dream wedding - is VERY stressful on just about anyone! You're definitely not alone.

You might want to hire a wedding coordinator to help you keep things organized, and to do all of the grunt work for you. That way, all you have to do is make the final decisions on things like flowers and food, but you won't have to go through all the stress of finding and pricing vendors.  

Answer 8

I don't think it's so stressful for you to put all those things that you said together, as long as they go together well and look good!

Answer 9

Planning your own wedding is one of the most stressful things to do.  I am getting married this September and even though I am not doing the fairy tale wedding there are always little things that you stress out about because someone brought it up and you had never thought about it.  I am more stressed out about people and complaints.  I made the decision to not have children at the wedding.  Well you would think I killed someone by the reaction I got from people.  You have to think about what you want, relax and enjoy the planning and def enjoy the day.  GOOD LUCK and have fun

Answer 10

Believe it or not, there are thousands of things you have not yet even thought about which you will have to decide on.  Of course it is stressful.  Streamline your process with an on-line To Do list which everyone can add to and see.  Hire a wedding planner or allow an organized person in your family to do this for you. Someone needs to be overseeing all the details so decisions can be made without you.

You put out there what the big ideas are, and then get help with the details.  

What are all the details?  Here's a way to list them.  Visualize yourself every step of the way.  Three days before, two days before, day before, day of, day after. What are you doing?  What do you need?  What has to happen and in what order?  Write everything down in one list.

Do this visualization for your fiance, for his family, for your family, for friends from out of town, etc.  One list for each person.  

Then, with someone's help, go through the lists, and prioritize, organize, and make a flow chart of what everyone is doing and what they need. Where are you going to get it?  Who will deliver it?  Who can help day of?

Can't do this because you have a job and/or you don't like to think at this level of detail?  This is the reason to hire a very detailed wedding planner or let a very organized person you know be in charge of the details.  Organized people love to organize, and it is actually painful for them to see details slipping away.  

Answer 11

Is it normal?!

Of course it is.

Especially trying to plan that big of a wedding.

When we got married, we just had a private ceremony in a chapel- And that was stressful enough..and we didn't have many guests at all.

It'll all be worth it in the end though.

Congratulations & Good Luck!