Work people. Who do I invite?

Question

I am the receptionist/marketing assistant at a medium sized company (there's probably about 75 office people, 200 people total). I know I should invite my supervisor and our boss above her, as we work closely together. BUT I see the VP's and president (owner) of the company pretty much daily, along with our 3 IT guys, 3 sales assistants, and that doesn't include HR or the sales people (and assistants) I speak with on a daily basis.

I've been with the company for about two and a half years by the time I get married, and at this point, nothing is done after work with any of them. What do you suggest?

Answer 1

Don't invite anyone you work with.  It's the only way around the question of who to invite and why.  Invite no one.

Answer 2

I would think deeply and see which of these people has actually expressed concern or interest about your upcoming marriage. If you see someone every day but they show not even the slightest interest in your personal life they are probably not even going to feel comfortable being invited to your wedding.

EDIT I would make it clear to those I did invite that you did not invite everyone from work and you would appreciate it if they kept your invitation private so that you don't feel awkward.  But I still think that if someone is not "on your level" and isn't the sort of person you would socialize with normally, they are not going to feel snubbed.  I personally don't like being invited to weddings of people I hardly know on a personal level. It is very uncomfortable for me and my spouse hates it.

Answer 3

No matter how closely you WORK with a person it doesn't necessarily make that you two have a SOCIAL relationship. Do you see these people for activities that have nothing to do with work? If both of you changed jobs, would you still keep in close touch? Sending a wedding invitation or announcement to people with whom don't socialize is seen as "fishing" for gifts and is incorrect.

If you feel like you must do SOMETHING to share your joy with your co-workers then bring in wedding cookies or some other treat your last day and then bring some photos to share when you return.  

Answer 4

invite your supervisor and anyone in your direct department that you regularly work with, anyone you see outside of work and consider a friends, and a guest for each.