Would i regret it later?

Question

well I've been dating this guy for about 5 months now and I really do like him, but his brother hates the fact that we're together. The brother is dating my friend, but last week I saw my boyfriends brother cheat on her. since then the brother has been telling my boyfriend to break up with me and last night he did. Well all of them are illegal immigrants and I'm so angry that I want to have the brother deported, but where he works there are so many illegal immigrants and I don't want to get all of them deported, but I wouldn't mind it if a few of them got deported with him...and I can't say where he lives either because then my boyfriend would get deported too. I know he doesn't want things to be over, but he feels like he HAS to listen to his older brother....

Answer 1

SPITE never ever makes anything any better.

If your bfs brother gets deported, it will upset the bf so much he will probably go with the brother too.

And you should keep what you know about the brother cheating to yourself.  It won't help to tattle-tale.  Let the brother know you won't tell, even though you don't approve.

You and the boyfriend can only go as far as the boyfriend takes upon himself to be independent of his brother.  As long as he keeps the family bonds, you can't change that.  

Keep your anger to yourself.  Don't empower the brother by giving your POWER away to him.

Talk to your bf and keep the relationship fun.  Less drama is always better.

^j^

Answer 2

that sounds like good wholesome family fun situation!

Answer 3

Get your brother legalized. Then send them all back... that brother is really  mean and way to controlling :(

Answer 4

I think you wrote the q when you were really upset.  I don't think you really want to ruin any body's lives.  I agree there shouldn't be illegal immigrants but its not your place to turn in people because your mad at them.  If you were doing it for your country you would have done it soon as you found out they were illegal immigrants.

Answer 5

I think any illegal immigrants should be deported.

Don't do it out of anger, but for the sake of your country.

Answer 6

Considering all the damage you can do , have you thought of an act called forgiveness?

  There is an arabic proverb that says:"cutting the subsistence is like cutting the neck." Can you bare such a crime on your conscience?

Answer 7

i think u should tell ur bf the truth, even if he z ur brother u r his love u must defend ur love dnt let him be the winer

Answer 8

Dont get them deported, i mean, at a time like this revenge can sound great, but you could feel gut-wrenching guilty after. I would just try and talk to your guy and tell him how you still feel. and tell him that he shouldnt have to listen to his brother, and he should do what he feels is right. if he still wants to remain broken up,.. then oh well, hes not right for you. Just dont do any thing drastic laster.