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My lovelt Mothe in law has bought my 4 year old a piece of gold jewelry evry year for her birthday since she was born...so she now has 2 gold bracelets and a gold locket. Her birthday is coming up and she told me "I've got her a lovely gold locket with a diamond!" I didn't say anything but that's TWO gold lockets! She's a bit young for all this gold and never wears the stuff....she's not the sort of child thats into jewellry...for the money she could have a really nice bike or something useful...so it seems a bit of a waste...I can understand buying her gold for special birthdays like her 13th or something...but this will take the shine off any gold things I wanted to buy her when she is older...she'll be like Elizabeth Taylor by the time she's 10! What can I do? Nothing? Whaty do you think?

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Lots of relatives buy young girls jewelry. Just put them away in a safe place until she is older.
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thats bad unless your mother in law is a millionair it must cost her a fortune-gold jewellry is expensive and ur 4 yr isn't ready for jewellry
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To be honest, I like that idea, I think its something alot more special than bikes or toys. I know she is far to young for jewelry now, But by the time she wants to wear it, She will have loads, One for every year she has been with you. Plus, Im sure your daughter will have tons of other toys from everybody else, I wouldnt worry, Id let your mother in law do what ever makes her happy.
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if i was you i would just keep all the jewelery for you daughter to show her when she is older, there is nothing else you can really do without sounded like you dont appreciate it, maybe just hint that she needs like a new bike or something and see how she takes it
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Put the jewelry in a safe deposit box for when your child is older. This is obviously a big deal for Grandma, so let her enjoy it.
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An image of Mr. T popped into my head for a moment there!

If your Ma in Law is set on jewellery, might I suggest YOU suggest the following:

I bought my daughter a silver charm bracelet when she was born. For every significant event she has a new charm. E.g she had a number 2 for her second birthday, a silver toothbrush when she cut her first tooth, a little basket of eggs at Easter. She has around 12 charms now (she is four and a half) and I have a tiny little old fashioned school desk ready for September.

This way, you have something that can be added to, keeps mother in law happy on the jewellery front (you can get gold charm bracelets) and is a kind of ongoing record if she keeps a note of which charm relates to which birthday.

I agree there are more useful gifts but you know how the in-laws are!
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Calmy explain that your child doesn't need or want the jewlrey and she isn't that kind of girl.
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yes id be OK with it put them in a safety box and keep em till she goes collage she will need money then and she cud sell em if don't like them ... gold is as good as money in the bank
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Well, I'd buy her the bike myself, and hold onto the jewelry. In the country I live in, they LOVE gold and jewelry. My daughter has a couple really beautiful sets, and some georgeous rings.

She's also only 15 months old. I'm keeping it all till she hits puberty, and will give her everything, along with the who's and whyfor's....I also buy the fun stuff for her gifts.
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I would have the four year old make up a list of things she wants for her birthday and send that to your mother in law.
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i have two girls myself and i would ask your husband to try and hint around that she been asking for this or been talking about that.. if that don't work i would nicely ask if she would get her this "bike " or (whatever) she has been talking about. i don't think it's wrong to tell her what she would like instead of gold... i would just let her know she would much rather have some thing else..
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Just tell her that your kid wants something else

like a bike, simple as that
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I think it's ok. When she will be older, she will be lucky to have piece of jewelery that matches. Besides maybe if in the future she will have financial problems she can use that, or give one to her children as a 'generations pass' :D

I got a golden locked for my Firts Comunion, and from my grandmother, but she said she's not giving it to me until I'm 18... How evil. I'm so mad at her still. All of my cousins were given theirs ON their 1st comunion and they didn't have to wait (even that they were 11)...
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I honestly think it is fine. Although it is a bit extravagant, I would let your mother in law "have" this one. She probably feels that she is doing something special for her grand daughter, and I'm sure your daughter will really enjoy the jewelery one day, if for nothing more than sentimental value. I do agree with you that a bike or something a little more age appropriate would be enjoyed by your daughter more... but if I were you, I wouldn't say anything. I just thought of something to add..... Maybe suggest a charm bracelet... She could buy a charm each year, and you wouldn't feel so uncomfortable with the extravagant gifts.... and she may opt to get her something else along with the charm!
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Gold keeps its value or often even increases - your MIL is giving your daughter a lovely nest egg for the future. Please don't even suggest she stops and just buys more toys instead!
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let your daughter tell her if she wants something else
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hmm i can totally see your point of view! it seems like such a waste - especially 2 lockets and 2 bracelets and however much more stuff - im not trying to be mean because its nice to have something to remember her by when shes older i guess but she wont be able to wear them and they will just take up space... maybe 1 locket would more appropriate not something every year hmmm... i guess you are just stuck =( i wouldnt have any "talk" people are recommending because it will probably just hurt her feelings and its not really hurting anything its just kind of annoying. final advice say thank you and store it all up =P you buy her the bike =)

** for the people suggesting for her to wear it when she is older, think about it - it wont fit - it will be too small - (duh) lol
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awww let her do it, it sounds like it is really special to your mil, and your little girl will appreciate it later when shes old enough to wear it. and it will last forever.
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It's the kind of thing she won't appreciate until she's older. Keep them all in a safe place and label them if possible--in envelopes or something. My grandmother used to buy me Christmas tree ornaments every year. I didn't really think it was so swell at the time. But I do now. Not as expensive, but the same idea.

A bike, she'll use for a couple years. She'll keep the jewelry forever and it will be a sentimental reminder of her grandmother.

As far as your mother in law "stealing your thunder" well...I don't think so. If you give her gold at some point, she'll appreciate that because it's a gift from you. I don't think she'll throw in on the gold pile in her closet and say "Oh, well. More gold."
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Is your mother in law hispanic? Resons im asking is my grandmother always gave me jewelry and pretty soon your daughter will want to wear her jewelry and she will have a collection. So you let her give it to her don't crush her spirits its normal for grandparents to spoil and give your kids things they don't need.
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let your mother in law keep nbuying it for her and keep it safe till shes older or tell her that she doesnt really like jewellery and would much rather get a bike or something else
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well there's actually something you can do. just talk to her about it most likely she'll stop buying her so much gold and if not who cares? move on there's soo many more important things to be worrying about.
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Well, maybe you should sit your mother-in-law down and express your feelings about giving her expensive gifts. I agree, another gold locket with a diamond is a little extreme for a little girl that's about to turn five. That gift can lead to her being very spoiled and a brat. Suggest for her to get her something that will benefit her later in life, something educational. Perhaps, money for college would be nice. Every parent and grand parent wants their child or grandchild to have intellect. Think about what she really NEEDS and not what she WANTS. Have that talk with her.
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pond the gold and get the money .then go buy her a bike and a barbie play house
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I would be more than pleased, But you should remind her that she is only four and you dont have to spend that much, she would be happy with any present.

Next time you are in the store and your four year old goes, Mommy can we get that, tell her to tell grandma thats what she wants.

But the first 3 item should be kept as keepsakes.
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