Would you stay given the situation?

Question

Say you were married with someone happily for say...7 years, and your relationship was the best it ever was. She told you she was a virgin in the beginning, and that you were the greatest man alive in everything. Even after 7 years your connection is great and everything is fine.

Well given your trust in each other and honesty...she finally felt she needed to confess something she was guilty for 7 years over...she confesses that she really WASN'T a virgin, and that she actually cheated on you a month before the marriage, but was a one night stand. You weren't her first, and she was with a few other men before you.

What would you do?

**note**: Just a scenario, i'm not in such a position (thank god), but i'm curious how one would cope given such a situation.

Answer 1

if things are really good i would try and put it behind me.  it was before you married  and a lye and why she did it  you don't know.  you will need to rebuild trust

Answer 2

In this day and age who care... and if she said she was a virgin and then enjoyed the wedding night you would know something was up. the first few times for a woman HURT LIKE h**l

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Answer 3

if the relationship wasn't built on honesty from the start, then its doomed already.  Situations like this no one should confess if things are going good.

Answer 4

some things are better left unsaid, such as this scenario.

why the fuss after 7 years now?  

Answer 5

I would be upset.... ya know, if you had lied from the start then what the h**l would be the reasoning to be honest 7 years later?? If you admitted something like that that many years after the fact then you weren't doing it for your partner you were doing it for your own selfish reasons... should just keep your mouth shut, ask forgiveness of God and leave it at that.

Answer 6

people make mistakes and they dont realize that when they do something with someone it doesnt just affect the two of them, i know from expeirience of being on both sides that she is suffering so much more and even if you do forgive her she could never forgive herself, and she probly waited so long to tell you because she thought it wouldnt be as bad as telling you 7 years ago

and to make sure she had a nice grip on you so that she had a better chance of not losing you

i say stay, but its your life and i hope everything works out for the best : )

Answer 7

Just because it was an one night stand, I will forgive my wife and try to forget that incident.  I will not rock my boat.

Answer 8

Honestly if everything was still going good and the feelings for one another were the same as it was when they first met then I would forgive her. It would take a while to regain the trust because she could still be sleeping around, especially since she did it close to the time when you should be concentrating solely on your soon-to-be husband.

Answer 9

I would question her motivation after 7 years, why she felt it was necessary to put this on the table.  If it was not going to come out, there would be no point. That being said, I forgive her & move on.  There would of course be an underlying trust issue from that point forward.

Answer 10

Given how long ago in the past it was (and people very rarely stay a virgin until marriage) I think I could stay with them.  I would be hurt that they had cheated on me, but if they hadn't done that since, I could forgive the lie they told me about being a virgin