Registry too expensive??

Question

I am going to a wedding in January (the first week) and nothing in the registry is affordable. Even salt and pepper shakers are $35.00. Do you think its wrong to ask for expensive stuff even right after Christmas?

I know its their registry etc. I was told by the bride that they were "pressured" into putting expensive things on their registry.

Its also things like a digital camera, video camera, digital photo frame....

Answer 1

give money

Answer 2

Usually there is mostly expensive things on a registry but always a few less expensive items too. If there is nothing on the registry you can afford just give money in a card.

Most registries include kitchen utensils and bedding not electronics.

Answer 3

You don't have to buy from the registry it's just nice if you can. I'm sure that cash or a gift certificate to the store will be appreciated as well. Most registries these days have appliances and other expensive things on them. If you know another guest you could pool your money and buy something together.

Answer 4

It's true, they do pressure you into registeing for "expensive things" under the guise of "it's your day, who knows someone may buy it!". However you do not need to spend a ridiculous amount and $35 is a LOT for salt and pepper shakers. We too registered for expensive items (appliances) with the hopes that people get us gift cards and then we can buy them on sale or at the outlet store. That may be what they would like too, especially if they are and established couple that has a lot of the traditional wedding items. A gift card would be perfect as they can pool them to buy something big they may need or want - you won't be the only one by far! Good luck!!

Answer 5

Assuming you feel obligated to get a gift, there's still nothing that says you have to get a gift off the registry. Stores will encourage the couple to put less expensive items on there, but they aren't going to force them to.

If you do want to get them something off the registry talk to teh couple and ask if they can put you in touch with anyone else who's going. If they're putting such expensive items on the registry I'm sure they're hoping for their friends to band together to get them gifts. (It's how you end up with pots and pans)

Answer 6

you should get them a gift card. i use to work in a retail store and the brides usually always returned everything on the registry and went and bought furniture. im guessing they just want the most form the guests and thats why they put so high priced items.

Answer 7

It does sound like they have registered for some very expensive things! I would personally have a very hard time spending $35.00 on salt and pepper shakers! lol. If there isn't anything you feel comfortable buying them, get them a gift card for one of the places they registered. Then they can put it toward their video camera... (that is INSANE to register for a video camera!!!)

Answer 8

Using their registry is voluntary, so get them a gift from somewhere else.  It sounds like they'll like it better anyway.  Some people put (or are pressured to put) fancy stuff on their registry so their parents' friends and business associates can buy gifts from it.  This is usually considered a payback for all the gifts the parents have bought for other weddings.  Wow, how romantic!  Throw the registry list away, tell the bride not to think about it, and if anyone complains to her she should encourage them to get them something of their own choosing that they can comfortably afford.

Answer 9

Maybe they put the expensive stuff on there in hoping noone will buy anything and give them cash instead.  I would buy the cheapest thing on the registry; if they didn't want it they wouldn't have picked it out.

Answer 10

I agree that they have expensive tastes, and it's rather rude to ask for personal items rather then items that will help in setting up house (what a registry is for). If there's nothing there you would like to get, or would feel right spending money on, get a nice gift card to their favorite restaurant or store. $50 is the average of what a guest gives, but give what you feel comfortable with and can afford. My cousin got married a couple years ago and the majority of her registries were from expensive galleries, so I completely sympathize. Good luck!

Answer 11

I think that's just silly! I personally would give a gift card for maybe $20 to apply to the cost of the gift.

In my family, my sister is doing foster care for her sister-in-law's kids. She has her 2 plus the 4 foster kids. We can afford very little and have already stared Christmas shopping (clearance ranks).

I think it's selfish to ask anyone to buy a wedding gift during the holidays.

Answer 12

a digital camera!! that is crazzzzzzy!!! lol

i'd get them some cheap wine glasses as revenge ;)

Answer 13

The registry is suggestion only. You do not have to choose something from there.

Answer 14

Give them a gift card for the store where they are registered.Most people know the limits of their guests.

Answer 15

Yes, I would have to agree that some couples go over the top with their registries...but at the same time, if they really wanted $8 salt & pepper shakers, they could just go to Target or TJ Maxx and get it themselves. The reason I have 'nicer' items on my registry is to replace the old and ratty pans or couch, etc. that we currently own. It is a little selfish of them to ask for it right after Christmas though. You could either give them gift card (on their registry) or give them money...good luck!

Answer 16

I think this is why people should have two registries one for family and one for friends to view.  I myself in a situation like this will just give a prepaid master of visa card or a check for about 50 bucks.

Answer 17

Well, one of my favorite gifts that I received was a BEAUTIFUL candle set. If you try Pier One, they've got dozens and dozens of great unique gifts like that.  It's okay that the couple doesn't get everything on the registry.  If they were pressured into it, they should know people won't be able to afford such expensive things.

Answer 18

That is a bit over the top.  You don't HAVE to stick to the registry, a registry is really meant to help guests find a gift (i.e. make guests lives a bit easier).

If nothing on the registry suits your taste or budget, feel free to get them something you think they need/would like at a different store.

Answer 19

Why dont you just give them a visa gift card.. Then you can pick the amount and they can get what they want..

Answer 20

Things on registries are often too expensive.  Nothing says you have to buy off the registry.  Find a nice picture frame or bottle of champagne that's within your budget.

$35 is NOT a lot for s&p shakers in the real, adult world.  Especially if they are part of a set.  Sure, you can get cheap ones at Ross or TJ Maxx for $8, but if they like the ones they picked out, who am I to say anything?  

I am not a fan of gift cards.  To me it says "I'm too lazy to shop for you.  Here, you figure it out."