Regulation for adoptions?

Question

do you think they are to strict. to you think by the rules that they make up that they are over looking good parents..I mean there are so many lousy parents that God gives children to everyday...

Answer 1

I hear you 110%.  I used to think the same thing when we were going through the adoption process.  It all seemed so unfair.  And yet, I just kept telling myself that if it protects just one child from being adopted from an abusive parent or worse, then it was all worth it.  So I hope that all the "red tape" helps to keep the "bad" parents out of the adoption circle.  :)

Answer 2

I have to agree with you I adopted my son and they put me through the ringer when there are all kinds of people in this world having babies, mis treating abusing and killing babies.  You have babies having babies and they don't even want them and then the people that do want them and have the love, time, and money have to go through allot and it ends up taking forever also.

Answer 3

I think the birth parents looking for adoptive parents are too restrictive. If you ask if the child protection agencies are too strict I would say no. Is the federal government too strict? No. Are the social workers too strict? Maybe some are but most are not.

Since going through the foster parent training classes and being approved for an adoption I've said that ALL people should go through the same screening. You're right there are so many people who have babies that truly do not deserve them and take them for granted, abuse and neglect them it makes me sick.

My personal opinion is that child protective services is not strict enough when complaints are made against parents.

Answer 4

I think the rules for adoptive parents are fair, my husband and I are adopting and went through the process and did not feel it was too bad.

What should happen is tighter rules for those who are parents but lose their children to the state due to bad behaviour (drugs, abuse, neglect). If the the United States were to terminate parental rights sooner, more American children could go to the thousands of waiting adoptive parents who would give them a loving and safe home. Crime and imprisonment rates would drop in a single generation.

Answer 5

I don't understand how someone can make such profit from people wanting a child to love and cherish.  I just recently placed my baby into the arms of the couple she will know as her mom and dad and they told me all that they had to go through.  Good grief!  It is almost like they base your parenting abilities off your checkbook.  It's awful.  The couple I picked could not have children of their own and fell in love with the little girl.  I had the doctors give her right to them....I know she is in the right place.  There are too many that can have babies and neglect them, abuse them.....I was not financially set for another child(already have an older one) and I knew that I needed to find her a good loving home to get all the things I cannot give her.  They need to make some changes in how things are.  It should not be so expensive for the prospective adoptive parents.  They should not have to go through getting a baby and then having the birth mother change her mind a few months down the road....it is not right to the child and it is not right to the child's parents(the ones who adopted the child).  I could never dream of putting that kind of heart-ache on the couple or their(my) baby.

Answer 6

Supply and demand. There are more parents looking for children then there are children looking for parents. The agencies have enough parents in the pool to pick and choose the best.

Answer 7

tell me about it - I cant have kids - doctors gave up on me and my husband

I figure it's ok I can adopt becuase so many kids need homes - granted i want a baby to adopt

GOODNESS! check out the prices - like 6,000 just to start the paper work.

THen you have to have another 6 to cont - not to mention how much money you have to have saved up in the bank for show

You kidding me - by the time I get the kid I'll be on welfare!

My mother was single, no child support, two jobs, loved me and gave me her everything that she could. She is an amazing mother reguardless of what she had in the bank when she had me.

But for me to adopt I have to prove I'm the queen of Sheba!

Answer 8

Regulations? It is a mostly UNREGULATED industry. I think there should be more governmental oversight, not less.

What rules are you considering too strict?

Answer 9

God doesnt give us children.  God gives us free will to do what we think is right.  Obviously, a lot of us cannout determine the difference between right and wrong.

Answer 10

They are just afraid that the will make a wrong choice.They are a little paranoid.You must prove beyond the benifit of the doubt that you will be a fit parent

Answer 11

Rules? I don't know if there are too many rules, but I do know one thing: I want the rules firm enough that when an adoption is completed that it is over forever. There should not be any room for shifting the baby back and forth and making a mess of a child's life. Spare no expense when it comes to an adoption lawyer. The real thing that should have stricter rules is who should be allowed to be a parent, but that is not going to happen.

Answer 12

I don't think they are hard enough...my girlfriend just got a child who was adopted from Russia that her adoptive parents abused!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!