Relationship Advice please. My and my son's mother were together for 7 years and in April we broke up, she ?

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moved out and since then I have been experiencing the worst time of my life. Now, things have gone up and down throughout the past 4 months - some days we get close as if things are being worked on but then we'll have many days that we are so far apart. I truly love her with all my heart - we have both made mistakes in the past but I'm willing to work things out because I love her and for our family we started. We had many plans together like buying a house and moving out of state to start fresh somewhere else. Like I said in the past 4 months we have been broken up but occassionally have spent family time, went to church, had s*x, talked. BUT she just let me know that she went out to eat with this other guy just recently and had a bad time. She said he was stuck up and she was uncomfortable. We hadn't been talking at all except about our son for 3 weeks and thats when this occurred. Now, she states that she doesn't feel it was wrong because we are not together and on top of that we weren't on good terms. I am very dissappointed and very discouraged now. I have had many sleepless nights, skipped meals, been stressed out since this all began. But I've prayed every night and kept the faith that everything would work out. Now, with this date she went on, it makes me question whether she truly would ever want this to work or is she just stuck on this "I'll do whatever I want" attitude cuz we are not together. She claims she has never slept or even kissed anyone else since the day we met in High School. I just don't know what to do? Do I give up or how do I go about this? I'm VERY uncomfortable knowing that she went out w/ another guy, eventhough she said she was uncomfortable...I ask myself what if she would've like him? or the next guy? Then what? She claims that she sees me in her future and that she wouldn't be mad if I went out to eat w/ another woman, but thats not my desire. I just want my family to be happy once again. Ladies/Guys please let me know your honest and truthful opinion. How would you feel? What would you do? Should I just let go and move out of state on my own cuz I plan on leaving either way...I'm already working on buying a home and I want to go as a family but I may end up on my own because I don't know how much more of this I can take....help.

Answer 1

get your family back and the woman you love if this is truly what you really want.  You love her and your child needs his mother.  If she has feelings for you as well then it's not hopeless.

Keep in mind that the opposite of love is NOT hate.  It's complete and utter indifference.  Even if she is having emotions such as frustration irritation or anger towards you then it means she still cares and there is still a chance.  There is no such thing as a hopeless situation.

You can use some methods found in a book for getting you ex back and apply these strategies to see if you can get her to consider some contact and communication lines, then work a few of the magic tricks outlined in this resource.  

Answer 2

IF I WAS YOU I WOULD JUST GO AHEAD WITH YOUR PLANS, YOUR GIRLFRIEND WILL COME RUNNING BACK TO YOU, WHEN SHE GETS TIRED OF BEING USED BY THOSE NO-GOOD MEN THAT DON'T DON'E CARE ABOUT HER. YOU DON'T NEED TO BE STRESSED.

I HOPE THIS HELPS

Answer 3

Um...You mean you two aren't married but have a son? If you two have a son and are only boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, and you two broke up, then she went to have a date with another guy, then that's not consider cheating or anything. Of course, If I were you, I would be very angry and hurt if my man who I love so much, went on a date with another girl just because we aren't on good terms. It sent the message that she is trying to move on and is giving up on you two. If she meant what she said about only seeing the future with you, why is she trying to date other guys? Maybe, she is testing you to see how much you love or care about her. Sometimes girls do that, to see how far is a man willing to go for her and how long is a guy willing to wait for her. If you truly love her, moving on would not be as easily done as said because you might regret letting your pride get in the way of your happiness and you will feel hurt for giving up on the woman you love. Feelings can not be control or life would be so easily. I think you two should have a talk together, start fresh if both of you really want to work things out. If you two aren't married yet and you really want to have this relationship going and have this family be strong, propose to her. This shows the girl that you are willing to be commited in the relationship and to spend you remaining life with her for real. Then, take some time and effort to bring her to places, movies, museums, and give her surprises. Woman always have a soft spot when the guy he love do those sweet little things. Just remember, never let someone tell you whether or not you should give up because she isn't worth it, in the end, you are the one who may or may not regret the desicion, not the person who told you. If you love her so much and think she is worth it, then don't let her go.