Relationship /Baby Blues?

Question

Well let me first start off by saying Iv'e been dealing with this for close to a year now. The situation is I started tlking to this girl in January 2007, we eventually grew into a relationship and started falling in love. i was only 17 and she was 16 but love has no age limits if your mature enough. She started acting distant after a few months so she broke up with me. That fall she told me she wanted me back and because my feelings wouldnt let me say no I agreed. It all seemed very good like I could be with her for the rest of my life! We had sexual relations around December then towards the end of December she started acting distant once again. We stopped talking for a while. Little did i know in January she told me she was pregnant. I asked if she was going to keep it she said no and if I'd help with the abortion I said no so got mad. When she went to get it she was to far along and there would be high risks if she got it. She started telling me she hates me and I'm no good, but yet i still LOVE her and would do nothing to hurt her. Shes now almost due in a couple months and still doesnt want anything to do wit me at all. I love her with all my heart and never did anything to her for her to act like this. I havent even tlkd to her in 3 months because she doesnt want to talk. WORLD what should I do about the relationship and I have a feeling shes going to try and keep me away from the baby. Is there anything I can Do about that also?

Answer 1

It sucks that you have to deal with this, but that baby is half yours--even though if she's going to keep it(which she has to now) she is going to be the one with a huuuuuge burden that will prevent her from doing a lot of things in life. it's not entirely your fault, but you could have helped out with the abortion. just try to talk to her about adoption and possibly raising the child yourselves, but don't leave her even if she ignores you. good luck

Answer 2

I am so sorry you are going through this.  Sounds like you can get someone much better who can appreciate you.  As far as the baby..I really think you should hire a lawyer.  You will need legal advice on this one if you want that baby in your life.  This girls sounds like she could be trouble.  :/  Good Luck!

Answer 3

i agree with the first one.

Answer 4

This is going to sound harsh but I would be requesting a DNA test to prove you are the father. My first reaction when I read your plight was that perhaps she's feeling guilty for some reason, perhaps she knew she was pregnant when she asked you to take her back because she thought you maybe able to provide for her and the baby, but once she got into it and realised that you truely loved her and the decpetion that she was causing, she couldn't take it any more. I sincerly hope that this is not the truth - but as I said my initial reaction was to believe that the baby isn't yours and she knows it and can't stand lying to you. Good Luck!!

Answer 5

you have every right to have a relationship with your baby once he/she is born, you have visitation rights, but with these rights come financial responsibilities (child support etc). As for the relationship between you and her, it sounds like she just isnt in love with you. Who knows, that might eventually change, but at the moment, you just have to accept it, but continue to offer your support and let her know your there for her if she needs you throughout her pregnancy.

Good Luck!!

Answer 6

You need to tell her how you feel, If she doenst want to talk try to mail her a letter. You need to explain yourself and how you feel in detail so that she understands where your at and what you want. And yes if she wants nothing to do with you and you want to still be part of the childs life there are things you can do about it im positive of this however i am not the person to be answering this one as i dont know how you would go about it.