Relationship & Family Q and A?

Question

I was wondering what will you do in said position,

Okay my husband family keep talking about me and trying break us up, he gave me the okay to curse them out but idk cuz I might be prgno and I don't wanna stress myself into a miscarriage over these people, who don't have a clue.

What would you do in this position, cures em out, file harassment charges, or be the bigger man and leave it alone.

Please I want honest opinions and answers.

Answer 1

Be the bigger person and don't allow this to control your life. Once his family sees that you have good character they will come around.  If they say that you are a b and you do b like things then you are living on their terms.  If you are the nice person and is mature about it then they will see you for that.  Just kill them with kindness, they will not know how to act.

Answer 2

I have been and still am where you are.

I must point out that you are a VERY lucky girl that your husband is supporting you in this issue and IS NOT joining in on the bashing.

If you can ignore em, do it, cuz you are a better person, and if you tell em off, you are just confirming their bullcrap. Yelling and screaming and hollaring and cussin will just give them backup the lies and such.

It is always better to kill em with kindness.

If you can't, the next best step is to ignore and avoid them, your husband to, when they come looking for an explanation, your husband should tell them that he does not appreciate they way they lie about you behind your backs or the way they disrespect you and as long as they continue to do so, there will be no contact from either ONE of you!

Maybe if he takes a stand, they may straighten up, if they don't, no big loss......... you and your hubby need to surround yourselves with people that are for the two of you as a couple, even if they aren't family, not people who are going to try and tear you apart! You find "family" in the most unexpected places at times and BLOOD don't really mean more then water anymore!

Best of luck!

Answer 3

We went through alot for the first few years of our marriage with my husbands parents. I had alot of fights with my mother-in-law and she has said alot of hurtful things. We've now been married for 10 years and I still don't have the greatest relationship w my monster-in-law. We rarely talk on the phone and we don't see her so often.

What worked for us? My husband stood up to his parents, and he continues to. If and when his parents do or say something to me, he addresses the issue immediately. He lets them know that I am his wife and we (our kids and I) are his family. We come first, they (his parents) are last. If they can't be nice to me, then they are not welcome in our home or our lives. My husband had to be bold, blunt and forceful. But in the end it has worked. They are most of the time 'nice' to me. We just tolerate each other. She knows that she has to be nice to me.

In the beginning, we ignored my in-laws and didn't see them for about 3 months. It certainly proved our point.

I'm sorry, I know it's a very sticky subject. But what you need to realize is that your husband is with you on this. You two have each other. Do you live close to them? You may want to think about putting distance between you.

Good luck!