Relationship advice from men and women PLEASE!! this is a life changing question?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 6 months. I am very much in love with him, but he has said time and time again thatdoesn'ttt have the same intensity of feelings for me because of all the rocky times we have had in the beginning * he cheated on me, i found out and since ididn't trust him i began to nag which kinda made it hard for the first few months* now he is getting ready to move out of town and I really dont want him to go but he says he has to and not only that, he does not want me to go with him. SO here are the series of questions I have for you all

1. what are ways that I can make him want to stay or at least want me to go with him? And Is it dumb for me to try and make him stay

2. AND THIS QUESTION IS FOR MOSTLY MEN: Is it true that if you want a guy to come to know the error of his ways the best thing to do is ignore phonecalls and back off for awhile to see if they care?? and if they dont respond to that then they dont? My other issue is...what if by ignoring him it drives him away instead of pulls him in closer??

HELP! i love this person dearly but at the same time I dont want to be a fool!!

any advice would help! thanks!

Answer 1

honey, once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. besides, he's been honest with u from the start. as they say, as much as u would want to, u can never make someone stay if he doesnt want to. its a decision he has to make for himself. at least he admits to not feeling the same way u do. he's not the one. let him go. do it for him and do it for urself.

Answer 2

Personally, i would've said my goodbyes the minute i knew he was cheating.  You shouldnt have to put up with that.  No man is worth it if he cheats.  

I actually understand the way you feel, something similar happened to me , except he didnt cheat.  

No matter what anyone says to you about just get over him, it will never happen that way.  

But it has to happen, it is obvious that he doent feel the same so yeah .  

Answer 3

If you love him let him go, if he loves you he will come back.

You sound young and this wont be your last love in life.  

Don't be too serious with this guy.  If he doesn't "chase" you find some one who will.

We all want to be loved but we don't all want to be used or made a fool of.

Only YOU give a person permission to treat you that way.

Answer 4

i think you are being dumb running after such a loser... there are people who like to stay with you until their deeds are hidden once those are known they feel like they are lower self... and feel kind of suffocated... so its better to leave him.. i know you love him.. but this is blindness friend.. i am sorry but this what i feel... leave him off if he really respects you he will come back... otherwise he'll indulge himself with someone else... so please try and get out of this love....

Answer 5

First of all, a cheater will never stop cheating, no matter how much he swears he will stop, no matter how much he says he still likes you.

Secondly, live-in situations are always bad. You are getting the house before getting married! If he's done nothing else right, this is the one good choice he's made. Don't go with him. It's as simple as that

You say you don't want to be a fool, and so this is what I say:

You'd be a fool to keep dating him. Find a better man who will NOT cheat. Select your boyfriends, don't settle, darling! God Bless!

Answer 6

Oh no...hmmm, your husband is waiting and it's NOT this guy. He is practice for the right one. Suck it up, and remember to keep your pride in tact. BELIEVE ME, i have knowledge of this. You don't know who you are yet. You will be amazed at how this will mean nothing to you really in the near future. Move on, if he is worth it, he will come back for a while..only to leave again! And thank God because your true love is about 3 years away, don't miss him.

Answer 7

sounds like he has made his feelings pretty clear

you are wonting to make him feel something he does not

as hard as it is move on

you need to be with someone that loves you as much as you love them

after all he cheated on you and then says he doesnt love you as much coz you nag him

move on love you can do so much better