Relationship advice?

Question

Me and my bf have been dating for one year. We lived together in FL. He really wanted to move back home to GA and I didn't want to; he applied for a job there anyhow and got it. He basically told me he was moving with or without me, but that he loves me and really really wanted me to come with him. (I'm in nursing school so I can't move to GA until Dec.)He promised to do whatever it took/ make sacrifices to make it work while we are apart. He promised he would visit almost every weekend. I helped him to move to GA and find a house. He has been officially gone 1 week. It's his moms B-Day next weekend and he's really wanting me to come up that weekend to see him. Its not convenient 4 me, so I told him I'd rather plan something the next weekend. He's like "Id rather you come up this weekend because the next weekend my friend invited me to go to the GA mountains to go hunting" I told him I didnt think it was right that he would go, because he had promised me he would "make it work" while we are apart. He had promised he was going to make sacrifices and this is a sacrifice but he doesn't want to make it. I told him that if he was going, that it showed he didnt really care about me at all. He moved to Ga and now he's going somewhere else instead of coming to visit me! I feel like he made all these promises and now he's breaking them. He says i'm not being understanding, im overreacting, and i'm not letting him live his life outside "us". I dont think this is fair! I'm just holding him up to his end of the bargain until Dec. when we are together again. He says he will make lots of other sacrifices, but it's hard to believe since he doesn't want to make this one. I basically told him not to call me if he's going to go on that trip. Am I right about all this or am I being crazy??? Be honest!

Answer 1

You are so lucky he moved away. Hopefully you will realize that.

Answer 2

It's not about who is 'right or wrong' - it's about what you both agree to - i.e. negotiating.

I'd google relationship tips and see if there is something there that you can learn BEFORE you go any further with this disagreeable relationship.

Answer 3

No i dont think your crazy cause i understand were your coming from but at the same time i understand were he is coming from. Its like now you guys have to do thing around each other schedule after he told you that he will do anything to make it work between the both of yall but he is trying to do his own lil thing while he can since your still in FL. When there is a will there is a way and if it was me ill let him slide this time and let him go with his friends but he shouldnt make it a habit cause he did say he will make any sacrifices to keep everything between you good until you come back to GA. Just try to give him one more chance and see how he do and if he still not holding up his end of the bargain then thats when you give him the boot but always remember every good relationship have there bad times to so its up to you to stick it though. Hope this is helpful.

Answer 4

no, you are not being crazy.... You knew inside that he was leaving you, and he only made those promises to make it easier on himself.

He left you, knowing that you could not up and leave.  if he loved you, he would have at least waited until December. I hope that you won't be his door mat and go looking for him later. he has proved what you are worth to him by leaving...