Relationship decode ???

Question

my fiance" told me seemed to be out of the blue , I need to help you get back into working out he always use to say i seemed happier when i did I'm not fat but have lost my tone is this a mixed message?

Answer 1

Id be a little insulted

Answer 2

Hes right but you are not totally wrong. Just do it.

Answer 3

Could be, but what he said sounds very reasonable.  People do feel better about themselves when they exercise.  Exercise give you strength, vitality, and energy.  The physical affect is also appealing for us to look at.  It would stand to reason that all of those things combined would make us appear happier, and certainly healthier.

Answer 4

Men love it when their girl takes care of them selves. It makes them feel like you are working hard just for them. Have you stopped wearing makeup or dressing cute since you stopped working out? I know I go through times when my shirts get a little baggier, my ponytail becomes more common, and the make up goes too. This all happens when I go through those periods when I am not going to the gym. When I start up again my husband always tells me how much he loves it when I take care of my self.  

Answer 5

What a jerk! He should have stopped with "You seemed happier when you were working out".  Basically, he misses you working out because he misses your buff bod and would like you to improve on it. This is about him, not you. What a jerk!

Answer 6

As women we always take this offensively, I'm sure he's just fine with how you look, but he doesn't want you to slack off or stop doing something productive like working out, who knows...that may have been one of the things that got him really attracted to you. Overall working out isn't always about losing weight like people think it is...sometimes its nice to be with someone that works out, because you know they won't just gain weight for no reason since their still taking care of their body, you know their staying healthy, and that their not being lazy because their taking time out of their day to do something good for themselves....so try not to think its just a weight thing, either way...if it is a weight thing just make him workout with you. Tell him something like "I totally agree with you, I've really been slacking off lately, but its about time you start working out with me too, etc." It could be a great bonding experience for you both. Good luck hun

Answer 7

when a person works out it tends to de-stress them, revving up edorphins which actually help you become more lively and happy. it also jump starts your s*x drive. sounds like he just wants you to be active, healthy and happy. nothing wrong with that.

but being that you aren't taking it like that makes me think you need a good self esteem check!

Answer 8

What he means is that you don't have that spunk you had with him when you first met. It doesn't last long. But if you can, try to be that spunky woman you were when you first met him.