Relationship help. (Homophobes, stay away)

Question

My partner and I were getting along quite fine at first, but now that he's moved to California (Our plan is to eventually move to Oregon together), he hardly contacts me or even asks how I'm doing.

I've mentioned it to him several times, but he just says he's sorry and then moves on as if nothing has happened.

He'll say he'll call, and then completely disappear for weeks.

Even when we do talk, he's very cold and uncaring.

What should I do? We were doing fine for a while..

Answer 1

chances are that his feelings for you have changed.  talk to him, and if he's unwilling to talk, think about ending things.

Answer 2

Sounds like maybe hes found someone else, you should politly ask him and see what he says, its better to know now than wait. Good Luck

Answer 3

I think you already know what to do. Its obvious he does not respect you and your feelings.  No one should treat their partner that way. Life is too short wasting time wondering how happy you could have been...start living it and making yourself happy :-) take care

Answer 4

Don't ask don't tell is my policy.

Answer 5

Maybe he is drifting.  If you have the communication channels open, make sure you talk about it, even if he tries to avoid it.  It may avoid pain later, or help uncover some issues that you can solve together!

Answer 6

you need a break from him.. maybe hook up with him when you two can spend more time together. otherwise its just going to be the same for a while. or maybe talk to him about it. see what he has to say. if i were you i would give it some time

Answer 7

im sorry but maybe hes cheating or maybe its easier to stay away cause talking makes him miss you more just tell him to just be honest with you

Answer 8

I would talk to him and ask what's going on. Let him know that it's hurting you. There's got to be a reason he's acting this way. If he's willing to change or work it out, you could try again. If he still acts cold hearted when you tell him how you really feel about how he's treating you, he's not worth it.

Good luck! :]

Answer 9

long distance relationships are rly hard cut him some slack and just chill go and have fun and try not to thank about hm until you here rm hm i would also talk to hm about it and tel hm how you feel make hm listen to you

Answer 10

Be brutal, ask him why he is acting this way and what he wants.  

Answer 11

The sad truth is that long distance relationships are hard and many times not successful. My advice is to have a serious conversation with him about how you're feeling. If he really cares then he'll make more of an effort to contact you and make things work. If not, then it's probably best to end the relationship and devote your time to finding another guy who will treat you better.

Best of luck.

Answer 12

talk to him about it tell him how you feel about it h**l understand ask him wats on his mind and if there is any way you can help him.

good luck!

Answer 13

Confront him about it. Ask him why he just doesn't seem to care. Ask him why he ignores you when you ask why he doesn't call. Just ask him if his heart is in the relationship or not. He sounds like he has some issues knowing himself. Because if he did, then he'd know if or when to come clean about where his heart is in your relationship.

This must be really hard on your part. Sorry if I sounded harsh at all.

Answer 14

    Like many relationships, you seem to be going strong and then, Bam! A sudden shift of feelings from one or both parties. It sounds that now that he's in a new area he wants to take it in and experience things without you. Thats wrong if you're in a relationship. Couples should want to do things together. Not go their own separate ways.

    It may be that he has changed his feelings about you and your relationship but may not want to confront you about it. Talk to him and be strong and direct. If you both want to continue the relationship, compromise on your time spent together. If he just likes to be alone sometimes thats fine, let him know that you don't mind but would like to see him at least x number of times out of the week.

Answer 15

move on dear..the writing is on the wall so to speak.

Or use reverse psychology  and TRY and not call and not pick up on every cal they make l..play hard to get.

Answer 16

ooh im sorry. Guys are so stupid sometimes. Just do the same back to him. Hold in there and just try not to think about him. Hopefully when he realizes he doesnt have you wrapped around his finger anymore then he'll come runnin. like when he calls just act cold and uncaring to him too... have him call you ect.

Find something you really like to do and even start checkin out other guys.  

Answer 17

I think he has probably moved on to another man. Maybe you should do the same. Stop worrying and live a little! Maybe you should go to San Fran? Yeah! Fabulous! Best of luck =]

Answer 18

If u think he is tence sit him down and start massaging him and have him relax thn if he gets excited hold back so he realizes what is so specialabout u

Answer 19

plan a get together go meet him or he meets u and just talk about it

Answer 20

He shows all the signs of cheating. Being cold, uncaring and always busy. Long distance relationships are really hard to keep. I think you should consider breaking up. What's the point of being with someone who you can't trust and is being a jerk even though he might be nice when your physically together? Stop wasting your time and drop him.