Relationship help please help. ( no stupid answers needed thankyou)?

Question

ok so my partner and i are about to hit one year, but he is just not interested in s*x! i know he is not cheating on me, but every time we start to get intimate he says he is tired or sits in front of the tv.

he has said he loves me and that he is sorry he is not up for it...what do i do, it's been a month should i sit him down and talk to him about it?

Answer 1

There are so many ways to answer this question because the only who can answer is him. I think you may need to have a talk with him because you never know what could be going on with him.

He may not be into you sexually, he may have a penile dysfunction, something might have happened to him in the past sexually that may have scarred him for life or he may not feel like he's up to par in the bedroom.

Let's go with number one: I don't want to hurt your feelings because I don't know you and I don't know your guy, but what if there's something about you that just doesn't turn him on sexually, it can be anything! You say he's not cheating, but you never know. My ex and I used to go at it everyday and then all of  sudden he would be tired, would get it up but it wouldn't stay up. Come to find out he was cheating and I would have never known it if wasn't for the girl he was cheating on me with on myspace didn't send me a note.

Number two which ties in with number four: sounds like your guy is young, but he may have a penile or erectile dysfunction. He might not be able to get it up, he might not be able to keep it up, he may have early ejaculation, he could have a odd looking p***s that he's insecure about, it could be too small or even too big!

Number three: something that happened in the past in the bedroom. He may have had complaints, another woman might have smelled down there, condom could have broke, the woman was on her period! He might be scared from his past bedroom blunders.

You really do need to talk with you guy. He's the only one that can answer the question. If you don't feel comfortable enough, next time some action occurs, take the way. If he's tired, tell him sweetie don't worry I've got it and get what you want.  

Answer 2

he might be trying to respect you, but also have u considered the fact that he might be g*y and just trying to hide it or trying to not give into it? that he does love u and everything but he just cant' be w/ u physically. (my friend is g*y and he used to be like that with his gf of 5 yrs)

Answer 3

not to be stupid or anything, but maybe he's self concious about his p***s?

Answer 4

maybe hes scared??? yeah i thnk you should talk to him

Answer 5

He might be thinking that mr. hang low isn't low enough for you and that he does't match up with all the others you have been with or he might not want to give it up

Confront him and do it gently cause it does take a while to come out the shell  

Answer 6

He could be really nervous , maybe he doesnt like the way he is physically and such. Or maybe he just doesnt want to disrespect you ad he thinks that it is better not to go that far.

He maybe does not know how to voice he wants to wait ?

Answer 7

Yeah you should definitely talk about it, and see what's the source of the problem. especially if you hit a year.