My boyfriend of 2 and a half years and I have had some small issues back and forth and because of this we had decided to take a break.
He did not want to take it, but I did. He is originally from another state and moved closer to me. All of his friends are back home and
I know that I am all he has here. I love him so much, but i find it hard to forgive him when I caught him in a lie a couple months ago.
You see, He dances Salsa a lot. He taught me so that I can be his partner. He always made a fuss that I didn't want him to dance with
other girls, as I would not dance with other men. I understand that the reason is to learn other people's styling techniques, but its
hard for me to see him dancing with another woman. Anyways,during this break, I find out that he went dancing in nyc by himself, by a
close aquaintance of mine. When I proceeded to ask him where he was that night, (hoping he would fess up), He told me that he went to
dinner with a friend and afterwards, for some drinks. I kept reasking the same question, giving him another chance to tell the truth,
and nothing. = (
I was so upset, I told him that I knew he went dancing, and he said casually, "yes, I did." I told him that I did not appreciate him
lying to me about it, and he began to explain that he did go out for dinner and drinks with his friend from work and proceeded to go
dancing later that night alone. But felt that he left out that part...because he knew that I would get jealous and think he did something
wrong. He also said, that we were on a break, and that I technically shouldn't be offended. He also told me that he only went out because
he was so tired of being alone in his apartment and was bored. I know its not unusual to go salsa dancing by yourself because it is a skill,
and you do meet people from all over of all ages, this is known as a social. But the fact that he left that part out, really hurt. Since then,
he begged for forgiveness and even proposed with an incredible setting and a gorgeous ring. I have been to therapy, church, everything, for help.
I want to be with him, and I know that there is no one else because he is always with me and fighting for me. But I keep pushing him away, because
I am scared. Am I jumping to conclusions? Since we weren't together, should I understand? Can this be forgiven?
PLEASE HELP!
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