Relationship paranoia....men and women pls answer.?

Question

i have this dilemma...we are very new gf/bf. whenever he sends me text he says he miss me ...then again when we hang out he says he miss me...my kisses, my hug and me. when i ask him if im his date or gf. he says you should find it yourself but its obvious.he says normally whom do you think i would hug sentimentaly? but he is also very naughty and likes to have s*x with me( then again all men want it)

so now im at my wits end. i cant understand if he really miss me or its just to make me go out and he may have the chance of s*x...or??!!

i dont know....what if i trust and later i find he was lying and what if i dont trust he is telling the truth...

Answer 1

Well if you're together as bf/gf that's naturally going to happen. I'm sure he does miss you and he misses the other stuff too. Stop thinking so much about it and enjoy your relationship.  

Answer 2

Give it some time and some practice - you will learn to trust your own judgment and intuition. Sure, some people may deliberately lie and mislead you, but much of the time they are not cold-blooded liars but just regular people who feel and think in the same ways you do. I'm sure when he says he misses you, he really does. So what if he enjoys being intimate with you? Is this a bad thing? Everything in a relationship is interconnected. He may have his doubts too - are you giving him s*x just to keep him around, or do you truly enjoy his company?

Don't rush it. Your relationship is new - take it slow, and let it develop before starting to fret. It is true that you might not be compatible in the long run, and either one of you may have this realization later on down the road - at which point it will be brought up in some way, and feelings may be hurt. But it's a risk you take in ANY relationship. It's ok to let the person know that you want to be exclusive, and ask how they feel about it. However, he may not be on the same page with you - even if he likes you very much. If he can't explicitly commit to being in an exclusive relationship, it doesn't invalidate his feelings towards you, but it does tell you a lot about his state of mind. It's your choice if you want to give it some time and hope that he comes around, or if you feel you must move on if you don't get his commitment sometime soon. Just keep in mind that every relationship has an element of uncertainty in it; best you can do is get more attuned to your own emotions as well as other people's - it will help you be more confident in your choices.

Answer 3

Didn't you say you hardly spend time with him if he misses you so much WHY O WHY CANT HE MAKE MORE TIME. Think about it where there is a will there is a way.

Answer 4

you are putting to much thought into this...seriously i am sure that he misses you and if not and he only said he misses you, than who cares, it made you feel better at the moment right?

You need to relax and enjoy life and not try to scrutinize and question everything this poor man says to you.

:-)

Answer 5

don't have s*x with him.  then see what happens.  if he's comfortable laying with you and talking then you know he really misses you.