Relationship possible break up... help.?

Question

I've been in a relationship with a guy for about four years, and only my sister and a few close friends know about us. My parents are very classic - they are totally against g**s (for what reason I'm not sure, but I'm intimidated by them). My boyfriend knows this but is now pushing me to 'come out' to them, even though I know the **** will hit the fan. I don't want to loose him, but at the same time I'm worried my parents will disown me (its not past them) and my sister. I'm just not ready to come out yet to them and I don't think I can handle the arguments with the b'friend much longer... I want him to see where i'm coming from but I want to make him happy... is his happiness ultimately more important than mine? Shouldn't it feel that way?

Answer 1

i think you should do what is best for you. because ur actually in the middle of all of it. i think ur bf needs to understand wher ur coming from. and u should reali try to make him understand.. if not tell him u guys needa break for a bit so u can sort things out... on the other hand u need to see wher ur bf is coming from, coz u guys been together for 4 yrs it does come to a point where he wants to be introduced to ur parents. u best to do it noe before it gets more difficult.mayb ur parents wont be that harsh i mean they might just understand.. considering u guys have held off for 4 yrs, which is preety mature and commitment is a main focus. overall do what u need to do but dnt be so "what if" dont think to mch on what willl happen. just do it if u need to. coz either or way ur gona have to tell them.. i suggest u do it now.. work on ur relationship first, make sure that this is the guy u wana introduce to urfamily.. its no point doin all of this and then realise u dnt wanna be with him.. all the best peace.