Relationship problems :(?

Question

hiya..

i have been with my boyfriends for over 4years now and we wer living together ther for over a year, but i am only 20yrs and we moved out of home for the wrong reasons.. we got engaged last july 07..

we wer fighting all the time about diff stuff, his family, money etc so i left for a week back home for a break, i loved being home and when i went back to our house it was not the same! and it hasnt been since!! we have recently moved home and i have gave back the ring, saying that we are too young yet and to live abit 1st!! but now that i am home i feel more distant towards him.. i still love him alot but i thnk that i am not in love with him nemore, but im not sure, not sure about us having a future nemore!!

my friends has recently moved to New York and i miss her..alot, and i have decieded that i am goin to go over in Sep 08 to see her and stay for 3mnths.its always been a dream of mine, and i i told him last night and he obv did not take it well..

am i doin the right thng?

Answer 1

If it's what you want to do, then yes, you are doing the right thing. Especially if you don't think you're in love with him anymore. Take the three months, do some soul searching, with your friend there to talk to about it, and see if you can't find the solution to your issue within yourself.

If you do, I think you will find that you fell in love with him when you were too young to know what exactly love was. Now that you're older, and your emotions have matured, the puppy love, for lack of a better term, has died, and now all you have left is a special fondness. Not enough to base a life long relationship on, I'm afraid.

Answer 2

well if your goin out with him for 4 years and your only 20 now i think maybe ye were a bit oyung to jump into a relationship so serious,like you really have not got to explore life because you prob feel tied to your bouyfriend,so i think you are doing the right thing you need to live your live how you want to live and do what makes you happy,a

Answer 3

i think you are right if its your dream you should go there and fulfill your dream.never trust him its my advise.

Answer 4

it sounds like you're staying with him out of a sense of security, or fondness for him, but no I dont think you're in love with him anymore hun.

You have come to an age where you want to get the most out of your life and see the world, and if you feel being with him is holding you back, then you need to be brave and just tell him - its not fair on him that you stay with him if youre having these doubts either.

xx

Answer 5

absolutely ! I'm sorry for him but you are to young and started such a serious relationship to young in your life. You will reget not living and experiencing other things. He may be involed later or even along on the ride. But to tie down so tightly at this age is just not a good idea. You would end up resenting him anyway always secretly blaming him for holding you back !

Be kind to him because it sounds like you two have caried eachother thru some tough times !!

Be safe in NY... It's it's own culture there !!!

Good Luck

Answer 6

Yes you are! At your age you should follow your dreams and live it up a little. But be carefull. Practice safe s*x.