Relationships resulting from an affair-any survival rate?

Question

What are the chances of a new relationship (developed through an affair) surviving? The female left her husband, and the man left his long term girlfriend to be with one another?

Answer 1

If the question is required to be asked then there may be some dought.

What was once done can be done again ......the grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side.  However if it is true love... then "best of luck"

Answer 2

A long term girlfriend or boyfriend isn't the same a marital relationship.  I could have hope for a relationship that developed during a time when a person just had a "friend" of the opposite s*x, even if they lived together.  But, if a person knowingly get involved with a married person, then there is NO real hope.  In order for a relationship to develop, then both parties must have no real regard for marriage.  A person that isn't happy or satisfied, can get divorced.  But, to remain married, yet to be playing sexual games with ANY other human except their spouse, brands the cheater as a scummy, no class low life.  And, the person that plays with the cheater, is just as much of a scuzball as the married person.

Answer 3

how old are they and how long have they known each other?

Answer 4

Honestly it is a high rate that there will be alot of problems.....Karma is a *****

Answer 5

Percentage wise, I read somewhere (sorry, no link) that the chances of an affair moving to marriage are in the single digits.  So, if it's under 10% to get to marriage, the overall "success rate" of affairs are very low.

Answer 6

I agree with browneye as much as the moral majority would wish all affairs end up down the tubes and the parties miserable the fact is it has just as much chance of success as any other relationship.

It depends on how hard those parties intend to work at that relationship and how closely connected they remain.

Sometimes you meet someone and BOOM! its an instant thing and you just know it.

Sorry, I know its not what you wanted to hear but really its true.  

Also there are only statistics available on marriage and divorce there are no official statistics kept on affairs so quoting % of success for people in them is pointless - they are not going to based on anything checkable or substantial.  Surveying a few thousand people is not enough!!!

Answer 7

I know of 2 separate couples who divorced because of affairs.  Both were long term affairs.  Happy to report, neither  "affair"  lasted long after the divorce.  The grass is usually greener on the other side of the fence, until you figure out it is greener because there is a lot of manure making it greener.  i don't feel sorry for these people, they get what they deserve.

Answer 8

I disagree. If each of the people were in a relationship, and left their significant other, especially the married one, Then it seems neither on e of them take vows seriously. That being said, what makes you think that they will take the next relationship serious?

I think the new relationship has less of a chance than someone who can make a serious relationship decision and stick with it.

Answer 9

It's has the same amount of survival rate as any other relationship!

You have to choose to make it work!!

<3 good luck!!  

Answer 10

One of my parents friends was having an affair with their neighbours.  My parents friend was like 40 years old and the women he cheated on his wife was 70 years old.  Im not kidding.  In the end they both left their families and ended up together.  I thought it was disturbing.  He had 3 kids and the women also had 3 kids.   I didnt like her one bit because she used to babysit me when I was little and locked me up in this little room for hours until my parents came and got us.  We didnt tell my parents for awhile.  

Answer 11

It IS possible (even though there is a chance that they would break up with other), but if they really love each other, there's no way that it can't work out.

The most important thing here are her kids (they are really going to have a hard time adjusting to the whole situation, especially if they are little).

...it's not impossible though, where there's a will, there's always a way.

Answer 12

Doing that is like jumping out of an airplane without a parachute. YOu may have a safe landing and you might just crash. You are taking a big chance but if that is what you want,.go for it.

Answer 13

it's rare but possible...

but, kids suffer if there are any...  

families disown people for leaving their spouse for another...

etc...

personally, I'd hate to think what people would think of me if I cheated or helped break up someone's marriage...

Answer 14

Nope, that's pretty doomed.

Relationships between cheaters will end up most likely in one of them cheating again, or in the lust that was originally there fading into oblivion.

Answer 15

Sometimes two people that are married drift apart and find peace outside of their home and sometimes that peace of an affair ends up being their best move and they divorce and cling to their significant find.

Adultery is not right, but I will say that when a person is not happy with their relationship they will seek another even while they're married which doesn't make it right, but they find peace with their love and whom they love.

I personally know a married couple that divorced not because the husband and wife were having affairs...it's because of the affairs they found true love elsewhere. To this day they are still married to the ones they found during their affair in marriage.

Neither one of them have had any affair since.

Did the affairs help them both find true love?

Was it right?

Who's to really say what is right or wrong about it, but the fact remains they chose to stay together until they both found new mates. ironic, but true.

Answer 16

Well the relationship seems to be the answer for both right now. Both had issues with their previous relationships. Each of them must have felt there was no chance of being loved or cared for from the persons they were with. These relationships usually start with a physical attraction and then a friendship. Usual conversation would be my husband doesn't take care of me. Friend responds with well if it were me no way would that happen with me. Both complaining about there partners to each other and thinking together they would have it all. But I would say this relationship will not hold up. Too many issues. Kids, step dad, real father, mother not agreeing with step dad on how things were handled. Kid are first to mom. Can new boyfriend settle for third string. Kids will try to show mom new step dad not good. They wan each other, then get kids in counseling, get new step dad in counseling to learn to be a caring person but will never be their dad. Get mom in counseling to deal with ex,new lover and be consistent with kids up bringing. Oh yeah it's love right noe but the grass is not greener on the other side.

Answer 17

She better hope that this young boy treats her children properly. She doesn't even know this kid. He can be a molester or abuser or simply unwilling to get married. He will ultimately cheat on her because he knows that she is stuck at home with her kids.

The relationship will Not survive. As for her original husband, someone should introduce him to the guy's ex girlfrind  :)

Answer 18

I think if the relationship started from an affair it is doomed.  If the people involved cheated to be with each other, who's to say they wont' cheat again to be with someone else.