Relative placement out of foster care????HELP!!!?

Question

my hubby and i are considering taking a 5 month old baby that is a relative of mine out of foster care and into our home-she just went into foster care---but i have a 4 month old myself--what do i do??---She is beautiful...but i dont know if i am ready to give up my one on one time with my only child....help!!

Answer 1

If you have the money and could find the time, you should do it. Foster care can be terrible on some children.

Since she's so young, chances are she WILL get adopted though because everyone wants a baby.

Your own baby is very important, so don't just rush in.

Maybe you could keep tabs and see if she'll get adopted soon, if not, you could take her.  :P

Answer 2

SO a mother with twins or triplets can not have one on one time either?

Do what is right and get your family out of foster care!  

Kids that age nap and will probably nap at different times, then in 6 months or a year they will be playmates too!

Answer 3

Do it hun, you know you can do it, plus as she grows she'll be company for your own baby, they will both learn to play & share things together.

Don't look at it as a negative thing, look on the positive side, two bundles of joy, instead of one.

  If there are no other family members that can take her in, then she needs you. She's your blood, you can't leave her in the care of strangers, you'll never forgive yourself.

Good Luck. X :-)

Answer 4

Think very hard about this, two babies under a six months old won't get any easier, especially when they are toddlers.  If you feel you can manage this then that would be a wonderful thing to do for the other baby.  Maybe there is another relative who could have this little one a few hours for a couple of days per week so you could have some quality time with your own baby.

Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 5

well if ur gonna get the foster one..i would say to treat them 100% equally. but since u already have a baby i think it would definitely be a challenge. cause thats like having twins or something. plus its gonna be twice the money to take care of them..if ur ready for another baby already after only four months with your own then id say get the baby