Reoccuring dream about my ex and my ex best friend...........?

Question

Probably 3 - 4 times a year I have a dream about those two doing the nasty behind my back. What does this mean?

Answer 1

It sounds like an anxiety dream about two people who have hurt you (they're both ex's for a reason, right?)

It's possible that you suspect them (subconsciously) of having an affair. (That darn subconscious doesn't listen to reason at all!)

Or it's possible that you've linked their behavior somehow.  For example, maybe they were both untrustworthy or both liars-- even if they don't know each other, your brain could have made a pair out of the two of them based on that. It might be that you have put them on the same level.  Or maybe you feel abandoned by both and that's why your mind wants to put them together.

Or maybe you subconsciously believe they deserve each other.

As you can see, there's a few possiblities.  It's YOUR dream, YOUR subconscious-- YOU will know what applies best.

The whole behind the back thing would probably be about the fact that you don't want to see that sort of thing. (Unless you are subconsciously worried that there was an affair behind your back.)

The reoccurance rate of your dream might be a warning to yourself about your own behavior-- or processing the betrayal of different friendships. (Abandonment, too, is a betrayal.) This will pass in time.

I would pray before bed about this, if you're REALLY concerned. Just ask God to forgive them both and work in their lives for His glory and to help you move forward in the wonderful relationships He's blessed you with today. (You don't have to believe in God for him to hear you. Like you don't have to believe in taxes for you to pay them.)

Blessings!