Reoccuring dream...help me!

Question

Ok...so...some back story. TJ is my ex-boyfriend. We've been through a lot of ****, and we're still friends. Actually, he's my best friend and I'm (not so secretly) still in love with him..but anyway. My dream.

In my dream I'm hanging out with TJ (this is a reoccurring dream btw...so I'll be vauge, the situation changes slightly each time) sometimes we're making with the love, and sometimes we're just having a beer and watching a movie. Either way, we're having a good times, and then TJ gets an invitation (sometimes verbal, sometimes written) to come join a few other girls in another room for some...stronger...drinks. These girls are always very beautiful, tall, s**y etc. He goes, telling me he'll be back really quick, he just wants a drink. He doesn't come back, and I get worried, so I go looking for him. I find him, naked and sprawled out on a bed with these women, usually drunk. Our eyes meet, and I feel...I feel my heart breaking. The most tragic, deep feeling of jealousy, anger, sadness and grief and love mixing in me. This shows on my face, and I walk out the door. I wake up before I find out if he follows me...I can never seem to stay asleep long enough to find out.

Now...needless to say...I'm very upset about these dreams. I want to know what it means. Anything you can tell me would be really helpful.

(I know I posted this on a different part of the site...but I thought I'd get a different kind of answer posted here.)

Answer 1

well if he's broken your heart before and your still in love with him that could be it. Usually i have dreams like that if i keep thinking about a guy if he broke my heart. You should just put your mind at ease and start thinking about the good times you had with him

Answer 2

Simple you want TJ to be your boyfriend but if you were to date him you would fear that some other woman who is prettier than you will take him away from you.

Answer 3

well i think its just cuz you u love him and you want to be with him

Answer 4

Maybe since you still have feelings for him you're afraid that he's moving on with out you. Since you did say you're still in love then you really don't want him to be with someone else. Just let it be.

xoxo

-Blah

Answer 5

I think that in real life you may feel unqualified next to him. Maybe you feel like you are out of his league, hence the jealousness of "s**y, tall women". I dont know you but I can assure you that you are not out of his league or you two would not be such close friends. The reason for your reoccuring dream could be confidence issues within you and they are not getting resolved. I would say to talk to him about your dream so he can tell you that you have no reason to worry. Maybe that could spark something and a get-back-together would be in order . Ya Know?

Answer 6

This is Insecurity at it's highest point.  You should talk to TJ and tell him of your dreams, and see what kind of reaction he has towards you, and if you don't get any support from him, I would take some time away from him, and see how the dreams proceed after that.  That's what I would do.  Good Luck

Answer 7

well, my quick take is that you still have feelings for him, but you dont trust him and you think he'll hurt you

Answer 8

It probably means your scared of losing him again. It's no big deal since it's just a dream.

Answer 9

Well you already know the answer that is that you are still in love with im and even though your friend when you see him just not  being with you it breaks your heart  

Answer 10

It's really just your brain doing a little book-keeping, nothing to worry about. It's at least preparing you for the worst but you can still hope for the best.

Answer 11

It sounds like you are desperately in love with him and you maybe need to find someone to help you forget about him.

Answer 12

I think you just feel worried that he may find someone else as you still really like him, or maybe you feel insecure about yorself as all the girls seem to be attractive. I have dreams like this

I just think your really not over TJ

xxxx