Repost: advice about my s*x life?

Question

I was told to post this here...I don't see the difference but here goes:

I am with an awesome guy--I love him very much. But I am not quite satisfied with my s*x life and need a little more spice. We are engaged---and I feel NOW should be when things are super exciting--and yet he doesn't seem to have the same appetite I do. I would like some dirty talk--some rough stuff (nothing wild) --some dress up etc...he is just into straight s*x with very little words or change...:(...he gets super sensitive about it and I am getting more and more impatient and depressed about it.

He's old enough and has been married and divorced--so we are not talking about a kid here. Since his ex cheated on him I do not want to give him the idea that I will stray unless he complies....but at the same time I don't want to live out my life with everything suppressed.

I have never had this problem before and it's starting to worry me....any thoughts/?

The frequency isn't the issue--he is basically ok with having s*x as often as I would like. It's just that he is pretty conventional...me? well--I love role play---romantic s*x---dirty talk--rough s*x---and alot more--there are things I have never done and would love to try---but--if he is't receptive to just saying certain things how does one move on?

Also--he says he'll do certain things and then he doesn't--I wait months then get annoyed at him because of all the built up expectations.

I usually love to dress up and do things--but if someone doesn't seem excited it takes the wind out of your sails and you don't have to ambition to do anything after a while.

I may sound very unhappy but I'm really not--I mean I DO love him---and I AM satisfied sometimes. But I want this relationship to bring happiness for years to come--and be fulfilling in every way--not perfect--just fulfilling.

for anyone who will suggest watching p**n: I can't watch p**n with a man who I can't talk dirty to---it's become too uncomfortable now :(

also when I ask him what HIS fantasies are he says...he has none....is this even remotely possible???

Answer 1

too much to read, get some s*x enhancements

Answer 2

Maybe he has some issues regarding his s*x life and these need to be addressed or that how he likes thing full stop. I guess you need to just be as encouraging as possible and try bringing in some fun little by little. Tell him how you feel and just make suggestions and that's what makes you happy. Take it slow and build up. Keep trying.

Wishing you all the best with the situation.

Answer 3

the 10 or 20 yr diff between men and women's prime strikes again good luck

Answer 4

People of similar mental health tend to marry.  Talk to your man and tell him what you want or do so with a therapist.  When I was a kid I didn't know much about s*x and as an only child didn't have much info.  My mother left me with some wrong ideas aboout girls.  So talk.  If you are going to lose interest you might as well use it finding out the truth.  If you keep quiet you might lose a good thing.  You've got nothing to lose if he isn't interested.

Answer 5

Sorry I really don't know how to answer this question ...except seek professional advice ....

Answer 6

You guys should go to a s*x therapist.  I mean seriously, NO fantasies?  Any man should be thrilled to have an adventurous (especially in the sack) girl willing to try lots of stuff.  Maybe he's the depressed one?