Respect, Should it be Automatic? ?

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Should it be earned?

Why was this Q 's suggested resting place be in Cars & Transportation?

Answer 1

Respect is to be earned.

Answer 2

Respect should be earned not just given to someone. It takes time and effort to give respect, Friends earn your respect by giving their  trust and friendship. Being there for you when you need them.

Great Question, Yahoo has issues when it comes to knowing where to put questions. LOL

Answer 3

People often seem to confuse respect with courtesy.  

Courtesy is politeness and consideration for others - giving up your seat on the bus to an elderly person, not playing your stereo so loud it bothers the neighbours, saying 'please' when asking for things in shops.  Courtesy should be shown to others as a matter of course.

Respect is admiration for the achievements and personal qualities of others and treating them with a suitable level of deference and consideration.  You might respect your college professors, your martial arts instructor, or your friend who has struggled against disability to succeed in his career.  

These people deserve courtesy (as does everyone) but they also deserve respect, having earned it by demonstrating attributes such as wisdom, skill, perseverence or courage, which has raised their esteem in they eyes of others.

Answer 4

LMAO @ yahoos suggested posting!!!

I believe it should be earned! I honestly could not respect someone that didnt have any for me...

good question

Answer 5

You should respect everyone unless they prove to you that they don't deserve it. Otherwise, who do you think you are to have people needing to prove themselves to you and win your respect. It's pretty arrogant, like the relationship should revolve around you and your judgment of them. If you are a decent person, you should approach everyone like they are also decent people worthy of your respect. If they show you otherwise then that's a different story. But to have to prove themselves to you, only shows that you yourself might be the one not worthy of someone else's respect.  

Answer 6

It is never one OR the other.

Respect is AUTOMATICALLY GIVEN to one who is in a "superior" position to the other... i.e. teachers, parents, supervisors, Senior Citizens, Elected Officials, CEO's, Ministers, Doctors, etc etc.  Needless to say, law enforcement officers, judges, and legal counsel are also on that list.

When it is earned it is when YOU HAVE earned the respect of others... by means of accomplishing the "superior" position... i.e. graduating from medical school, being elected President of the United States, living to be 65 years old, etc. etc.

As for the "suggested" place, I think the Y!A system took the word "Automatic" and parsed it to mean something to do with a car's transmission.  You can always change the suggested category, but sometimes it is humorous to see what the computer comes up with.

Have a polite day.

Answer 7

I think respect is automatic until shown otherwise. I think trust is earned. Respect in the sence of being polite, upfront, not trying to undercut or play games, or manipulate due to someone's authority, etc.

Trust is different and I think people get them tangled. I may respect someone at work, but I don't have to like them, or trust them with any aspect of my life.

But as a person or just a worker (them doing their job) I can respect them until they show me and others they can't handle the job. But I can still respect them as a person, unti lthey show they are not "good people". Etc.

We may also be looking at a generational change. No offense intended to any others, it's just something that I have kinda noticed.

Answer 8

First, I think you should respect people from the start, but just as common courtesy. There's the respect inherent in humanity, but then there's another respect that is also earned because some people use the word respect for a synonym of to hold in high esteem.

You should automatically respect your parents, teachers, employer... but those people can earn your distain. If you are a parent, teacher, or boss, you should automatically give common respect to your subordinates or you will lose the benefit of their respect :0)

Also, this probably got categorized in cars because of the word "automatic"

Answer 9

I disagree to a point with some of the answers here today. I don't think respect should be delegated to those in position of power. I think all humans from a small child to the elderly deserve to be treated with respect. Respect in my eyes involves  a willingness to show appreciation and consideration to another person's being. It is therefor my personal credo to show each person I meet respect and courtesy. If they fail to show me the same respect, then I simply avoid them in the future if possible, but I refuse to be rude or disrespectful to another person. (It helps me to remain invisible!) It comes down to, if I live my life with integrity, then I never have to feel guilty about anything. Sappy but true.

Answer 10

Earned....why should somebody because of age, position or whatever automatically get respect.  You get respect by earning it.

Answer 11

My philosophy, everybody's an as$hole until proven otherwise.

And it's yahoo being stupid with this bug. The hockey section is bombarded with idiots asking AT&T questions.

Answer 12

I try to respect everyone without them having earned it.

It doesn't always work.