Respect parents or only when it is equally given?

Question

Honor thy parents...

But what if your parents treat you with complete disrespect?

Should you STILL respect them?

Im not talking about spoiled little middle school kids not getting GTA 4 from their parents. I talking about real family neglect.

Do you respect adults off the bat or do you respect when respect is given?

Answer 1

No, If I was neglected, I wouldn't respect my parents. I think that repect works both ways. If my parents respect me (which they do), i can respect them

Answer 2

I know what youre going through My entire life i got beat for doing nothing wrong I was only doing what every kid does I never got respect and was always looked down upon I always wanted to have them feel the way i did when they treated me like that But you have to keep in mind that you are above all of that If you show them respect when they dont Then hopefully they will realize one of these days what they have been doing to you and they will regret it They have to learn that its not the way you treat people especially your family So keep your head up and dont let them get to you Cause its most likely gonna be you that teaches them respect and dont let them get to you It helps being vocal and venting about whats bothering you Dont hold it in Itll eat away at you Good luck

Answer 3

Generally speaking, yes, you should respect your parents.

My father physcically abused me as a child.  I respected the fact that he was the authority figure in my life at that time and that he made the rules, but I never respected him as a person.  To this day I can't stand that man, but I love him because he's my father.

As an adult, I don't immediately respect every adult I come in contact with.  That being said, I do treat other people the way that I would want to be treated.  That includes being respectful.  Even if they don't deserve it, I refuse to sink to their level.

Answer 4

If you have a parent who is negligent or abusive, of course you can't respect that.  In fact, you should report it to the authorities and get some help.  But I think that you should treat any new acquaintance with respect unless or until they show you that they don't deserve it.  In some situations, you have to show respect to authority even if you don't agree with them  - like with law enforcement officers and teachers.  It is usually easier to get cooperation or consideration from someone when you approach them respectfully.

Answer 5

I was brought up to always respect your elders, and especially your parents, and its just sort of ingrained  into me now, i cant help it, it comes automatically.....but if there is serious neglect going on, you dont need to disrespect them, you need to make a phone call and get out of there  legally, after all you are still a child, and if something is going  on that warrants you disrespecting your parents, ten there needs to be something done about it.

Answer 6

You should always respect your parents, after all they are allowing you to be on the internet right now and giving you clothes to wear and food to eat and an education. But when you are old enough you have the decision on wether or not you think they are worthy to be in your life because of what went on as a child.

Answer 7

I respect everyone (kids and adults) when they earn it. I don't "owe" anyone my respect simply because they are an adult or in a position of authority, but most people in my life earn it immediately. Part of earning that respect is being respectful to me as well, as it's difficult to respect someone who acts disrespectful towards you.

That being said, I always act respectful. Actually having respect for someone is out of my control. I can't force myself to respect someone. Respectful behavior, on the other hand, is something I can control, and I believe in acting with great respect towards everyone (saving for extreme circumstances).

Adults are not necessarily deserving of respect simply because they are adults, but acting respectful is, in a way, an act of self respect, and of respect for my parents (whom I do respect and love greatly, and for their own merit).

Answer 8

The modern parents are not inclined to give much time to their children.  This started with the WWII parents who developed a materialist view of the world and have breed children who are self absorbed and are not parents and grandparents.  Egocentric people who are parents deserve no respect.  It is not worth a second thought.  They are just biological parents.  That does not warrant respect from the offspring.

Answer 9

You should always respect your parents.  Sometimes kids think that they are not getting any respect from their parents but it usually is just that their parents are parenting them.

Answer 10

I was seriously abused and neglected when I was a child. I never showed my father disrespect but I did do what I could to take care of myself.

Getting yourself out of a bad situation isn't disrespecting your parents.

I do abide by the Golden Rule and treat others as I wish to be treated. Who you choose to be, especially in bad situations, makes all of the difference.