Respect. whats the deal? [read details]

Question

if you aren't given respect from some1 are you gonna dish it to that person?

i would think not.

ex: some 1 says something rude to you and your family with disregard or something offensive to you personally...your going to get upset rite? well you say something back and blah blah blah...

did you treat that person with respect? no.

y not? because they don't have the same respect for you.

so why is it that adults believe that they can disrespect a teenager or young adult and expect them to take it?? [[not all adults]]

i know the whole respect your elders c**p but y should teens if they arent respected by that person?

and who says thats whats write to live by? and if you think it is the rite way to live why?

[[whether the adult is a stranger, relative, parent, or a bumb....]]

just give your full opinion on the situation and what you think.

speak your mind,

i love hearing ppls bull c**p!!

haha!!

10 easy point!! i just pick the one who speaks there mind and reall says how they feel.....

thanks!

Answer 1

This is not a one answer fits all.  Some people may be jealous of you and say or do things to attack your character.  In that case, you have to face those people and politely tell them that you are not going to take or put up with their c**p (you choose the polite words).  Other people you can treat nice and they treat you nicely back and everything is just fine.  I believe in treating people like I want to be treated, but I've also learned I don't have to take any c**p or feel inferior to anyone.  We should expect and give respect, but sometimes we are forced to demand it.

Answer 2

I used to think exactly like you. In fact, when I was 16. I got into a huge argument with my dad.

The only thing I remember about it was he kept saying "I don't care about that." (That being whatever it was I was mad about.)

Eventually, he said, "Look! My house, my rules. If you don't like it you can leave!"

I said "You've got a deal!" and I walked way.

I slept in a friend's back yards. I had no where to go. I tried to get a GED and a job. Neither happened until I was 18. I didn't learn to drive until I was 21. I missed out on high school all together. Eventually, I joined the Army. I got some training. When I got out, I got a job and a car. I bought my first house before I was 30. New house. We built it. One day my dad came over to visit to see our new house. I asked him to take off his shoes.

He grumbled a bit and said, "Why do I have to take off my shoes?"

I said, "My house. My rules, If you don't like it you can leave."  He knew I was teasing.

He said, "Oh...Ok." and he took off his shoes.

This is the short version. I've been through a lot of c**p in my life. You might read this and think, I'm saying you were right. After all, I didn't respect my parents. Thats not what I'm saying at all. My life was hard because of the choices I made. I went through a lot of c**p I probably wouldn't have if I'd stayed home. I learned a lot about life though. I learned what really matters.

I started out with nothing. Just the clothes I was wearing an ID card and a library card. No money. No hope. I got help from people who cared about me. Eventually, I got my life together. I had to take c**p from all kinds of people. Fighting doesn't get you anywhere you want to be. Its humbling when you have to ask a friend for some food or if you can stay on their couch for a few days because you've got nothing else.

One thing I've learned is it doesn't matter how much respect you GET from other people. You have to GIVE respect to everyone, if you ever expect to GET respect from anyone.

You might meet a total jerk who talks trash to you. You don't respond the same way. Don't let them drag you down. You have to be better than that. You have to be stronger than that. You have to stand up straight and have enough confidence in yourself to look a complete jerk in the face and say, Please or Thank You or call them Sir or Ma'am. No matter how much people look down on you, you have to be strong enough to let that go. Keep yourself grounded and demonstrate how you want people to treat you. I guarantee you, it will show. You will get respect.

Look at what you yourself said "some 1 says something rude to you and your family with disregard or something offensive to you personally..." and "did you treat that person with respect? no.

y not? because they don't have the same respect for you."

Well, it has to start somewhere. You have to break that loop. You have to be the one who shows the respect. Then you'll get it. Its not a sign of weakness. Its a sign of inner strength. It will show in ways you don't even expect. Try it you'll be surprised.

I don't take any c**p from anyone, but I don't give anybody any c**p either. I can't explain it exactly. I just keep myself centered and don't get goaded into an argument. It works great. The softer you speak, the more they listen.

You should print this question out, and keep it. Not my answer or anyone else's answer. Just your question. Look back on it when you're 40 and dealing with your own kids. You won't understand what you were thinking or why.

Everyone thinks like that when they're teens. Everyone older than that thinks teens are crazy and they can't believe that they used to be that way too. When you get older, you'll understand things better. But you will change so much that you can't even imagine how you ever thought the way you did when you were a teen.

Relax. You're life is getting to the good part. The part most people like to think back on when they're older. Make it good. Make it something you want to think about in the future. Don't bog it down with useless c**p. Its not that hard to show good manners to jerks. It just shows you're as strong as you know you are.

I wouldn't change any thing about my life. But, I hope nobody has to go through the c**p I went through.

Good luck. I'm pulling for you.

Answer 3

I always wondered the same thing. I was disrespected a LOT as a kid by adults. & if I spoke my mind or defended myself, I would be punished from field trips, dances, talking on the phone, hanging out with friends, etc.

It's not fair. & now I'm an adult. I don't distrespect teens or kids. I'm very nice. & the tables are turned. I used to be a foster kid & with through the wrongful punishment, etc. The above mistreatments, punishments, etc. were from my foster care experience. Now that I'm almost 25, the former foster family expects me @ age 24, to do what their 9-yr. old kids tell me to do. Or they would tell me that if I don't do what the 12-yr. old foster boy tells me to do, then he has EVERY right to knock ALL my teeth out!

& they treat me this way b/c they think I'm crazy & retarded. Well, hello! I had 2 strokes @ age 5. I'm gonna have SOME mental impairment, right? But guess what. I graduated from high school with a 3.6 GPA, & I have my BA degree in Spanish from UNIVERSITY. So I have lots of accomplishments.

Answer 4

i agree with you. for me, you gotta give respect to get it. i have this neighbor (who is a c*nt by the way) shes an older lady. my dogs barked at her one day, and she started yelling "im gonna get my shotgun on your dogs" well, that upset me, but, shes old. shes scared of flys. anyways, i had left and came back, and noticed a letter from the cops on my back door, telling me to keep control over my dogs. keep in mind that my dogs were in my yard, not hers. anyways, i was pretty ticked about that, but, i decided to do the right thing and appologize to her. i walked to her front door, she came out and i asked "did you call the cops on me" thats all i said, thats all i had the chance to say! she starts being rude and mean and shaking her fist in my face! then she pushes me and when i slap her hands off of me, she punches me! YEA! punches me!! so, out of reaction, i slap her back.

i tried to be respectful and appologize to the old b*tch, but, she thought she could buck up to me and kick my @$$. i went to jail for "attacking her on her own property" so now, i just hope i see the old c*nt out in her yard and fall and break her hip! cuz im gonna run up to her and laugh, then go back inside and keep watching tv.

=*)~

people like her p*ss me off. they think jst b/c they are older than you, they have the right to treat you that way. uh uh no ma'am, not me!