Restraining orders and threats?

Question

I am just curious as to if the police will do anything about what happened today. I have a restraining order of my ex because of domestic violence. He can only be near me in a public area when he visits our son. As he was leaving, he told me, "In a month, if you don't get rid of the restraining order, then you are gonna really know me." I have no idea what he meant by that but it is a little scary. I am getting a real custody order first thing in the morning to be safe that threat wasn't about kidnapping, but I dunno maybe he might be planning something crazy and violent. Will the police even do anything since it was a really broad statement and there were no actions taken?

Answer 1

Restraining orders are a joke, because nothing can be done until the person acts out. By then you may be de--.

Answer 2

The police cannot do anything based on a statement because it is your word against his, he can just deny he ever said it.  Unfortunately the police cannot do anything until he acts upon a threat.

Answer 3

If I were you, Id either go to or call the PD and fill out a statement of what was said so that the things he said are documented.  Isn't it illegal to make threats, especially to someone who has obtained a restraining order against you?  Try recording some of these threats either by letting him leave a message on your voice mail after a steaming argument, or by recording him talking with your cell phone.  I would think the messages on the voicemail would be more effective bc they can actually see where the call is coming from by looking @ a detailed bill.  Just recording his voice isn't exactly proof bc he can say it wasn't him...where as if your bill shows an incoming call from his number @ 2:13 pm and the time-date stamp on the voicemail says 2:13 pm, then there is no way around that...he's busted!  

Answer 4

Restraining orders are good at taking a bad situation & making it worse, not the other way (ie making it better).  If a person really wants to harm you, a restraining order won't stop them.

In terms of seeking to gain full custody, if you believe that your ex will be a threat to your son then you should try to get full custody.  Otherwise, I would suggest dropping the restraining order & keeping things focused on your child together.  

Good luck resolving this.

Answer 5

Get him on recording saying these things. A pocket tape recorder will do the trick. He probably isnt too smart and will continue to say such things around you. If you can catch him on a recording saying these things it will help your chances of putting him away.

And get a gun. If he comes near you bust a cap in his ****. No jury in the world will convict you.