Revenge,is it worth it in this case?

Question

This girl,she's pretty much made my life h**l for years.I mean i got through it all,but at the time it was that bad i actually feared going to school.I just wouldn't go i'd start having a panic attack,and i'd stay in all the time in case i saw her or something.Don't really want to go into details about the stuff she did.

It seems a pretty lame thing to do now,but you know i was younger and it got to me.

Now though i go to college,have a bf and have a sweet set of friends if i may say so myself.I guess this is kind of revenge in a way,you know coming out the other side better,after all she's a stay at home mum now at just 18.

The other day though i got told something that would ruin her,along with her pw to myspace and msn which would be such an ironic way to spread the good news i know.

Idk i was always one for revenge,you know give as good as you get etc,but now i have the opportunity i'm not sure really.

Should i leave it as it is? Or go ahead and spread what i know?

Fyi - this suggested the friends section for some weird reason 0_o

Answer 1

Dont revenge has consequences and any way if you did this would you be any better than her!!it just shows you that your the better person and that you can hold your head up high and that thing em oh give as good as you get what if she finds out it was you she could begin again to make your life h**l it might make you happy for a while but then (if you have a consiounce ) youll begin to feel guilty.Just think what she did to you and if you did this think how she would feel.

Answer 2

I suppose you could check out the religious nuts on this one. I think it would go something like1. Christian. Turn the other cheek 2.Jewish. An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth 3. Islam ( Allah is merciful- (add your own next bit) 4. Buddhist. Kama means you don't get away with anything or "Get your own back in your next incarnation" or American New Age. Retaliate first.   I am 55 years old and i would still like to get the SOB that used to stick compasses in by back from the seat behind.

Answer 3

I don't think it is. It's your choice but you should never stoop as low as she did back then. Be glad that you have a great life. Move on with your past. She's not worth remembering right? If you do, you're only as bad as she was back then.

Answer 4

All depends on what she did to me.. if it was lies and humors yes i would.

Answer 5

This answer will be short and sweet:  Living a good life is the best revenge.

Leave that woman behind you.  She is not part of your present and will not be a part of your future.  What she sowed she must now reap.

Don't get on her my-space page anymore.

You have been blessed with new and wonderful friends.  Don't muddle it up now by indirectly sticking it to this girl.  It does not become you and it may backfire.

Answer 6

If you can't just let go of the past with her, consider whether you'd rather harbor resentment toward what she did to you - or risk haivng remorse over what you may have done to someone if your revenge turns out to be over the top.

In my experience, resentment is a lighter load than remorse - Of course, the lightest thing is no load at all - and that comes by forgiving and letting it go.

Answer 7

You need to be seriously sneaky about this !

Do it but make sure she can't trace it back to you. ie set up a false e-mail account. that kinda thing.

Answer 8

You're in college. She's 18 and a stay at home mom. So what? Life brings us different choices. It doesnt mean she still cant become a lawyer or whatever she wants to be. Maybe she's happy taking care of her baby. Enjoy your friends. Enjoy college. Stop going on about the past. She's not part of your life anymore. Get over it.  

Answer 9

tell her you know what you know. Then you are not being a gossip, but tips the balance a little.

Answer 10

If you can do it without anyone finding out who posted it them do it honey,I hate school bully's.

Answer 11

Sometimes yes revenge is good.  And as they say "revenge is a dish best served cold".  Its been a while since you were at school so she would never ever suspect you would do something now. What you have to think of is - if you did what you want to do, would she know it was you?  If yes and you did it, could you live with the consequences that it may bring. Could you live with yourself knowing what you did to her. Bearing in mind how she made you suffer?

If you did it and she did not know it was you that would be better. You would just have to make sure that it would not lead back to you. Would it make you feel any better knowing you have made her life h**l for a while?

In a way I can understand what you feel.  You want to get her back by saying Look at me now. And look at you.

Yes she made you suffer but you got over it, You are now a better person, a  student, you have a boyfriend, lots of friends etc. How would they feel if they discovered that you did something?  Would it ruin your relationship and friendships? would they think any less of you?

That's what you have to think of.  Weigh up all the pro's and con's yourself. They see what you think.

Would it totally ruin her life, or is it just rumours? could you live with yourself knowing you ruined her life?  Rumours are different.

My husband is 41 and he is still waiting to get revenge on someone he was at school with at 16.  Its a long time but he will get revenge on him because he too had his life plagued at school.  He sniggers cos he knows that the lad will never suspect he would do anything about it all these years later.  But he will.

Good Luck and what ever you decide just remember YOU have to live with it for the rest of your life

Answer 12

No leave it , you have shown that you have bettered yourself, even though these things do get to us ,you know yourself its not worth it ,Don't look back,,You are the stronger person,

Answer 13

no it wont make you look good....stay quiet

Answer 14

Revenge isn't worth neither in this case nor in other cases, as it is a negative sentiment with sideffects for the revenger that steal peace and harmony and your emotional balance.

Answer 15

Wow, strong temptation. But I would let it go. You have her in your power - but you are better than she is. She's not worth the investment of your time and thoughts. Also, in years to come you might regret having behaved in a way you don't really admire. Don't let her, or the memory of what she did, cause you to be untrue to your best self. Know that you could have ruined her, but you didn't. And continue to triumph by living well - whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and that has obviously been true in your case. Meanwhile, she will be her own punishment, you can be sure of that.

Answer 16

Revenge is never the right thing to do. Leave punishment to God, trust me, He can take care of it.