Right time to get pregnant , husband wants to wait for legal matters.?

Question

Ok so we have a 2 1/2 year old son, I am completely ready for another baby. We both agree and want more kids. The problem is that we are in the process of getting his legal papers, and once we get towards the end we will have to go to Mexico for about 2 weeks hopefully for only, so that he can re-enter legally. Which I understand the reasonings, we just have no idea when this will be. He would rather wait until all is said and done or have more knowledge of whats going to happen. But I really want to have a baby again. You know my son is working on being 3 years old, I dont want a large gap of years between my kids. What should I do?

Answer 1

How long ago did you file?  How difficult is his case (did he come in with a visa and overstay his time or cross undocumented)? Who petitioned for him? If you've just recently done this... it could be years, unfortunately.  But ok, if you just have to go for 2 weeks, I don't think that should be an issue (are you sure it's 2 weeks? i keep hearing about ppl who are being told they have to leave the U.S. for 10 years and then re-enter documented. but i'm def. not an immig. expert... and i def hope you're never told the 10 year thing!!)

if you're sure it's only a 2 week thing, i'd just try. try to have the baby. i think if you have the baby in MX she/he'll have dual-citizenship, no? pretty cool i think. lol. but i mean. it's only 2 weeks. so what are the chances of something happening in those 2 specific weeks..

and ok, you can't be 100% sure you'll concieve as quickly as you think.... and what if you're stuck waiting years and years for his papers to come thru and you don't have your baby.  i say try and let nature take it's course. i think if you have faith things will just fall into place. but that's just me...

p.m.a.

Answer 2

Mm thats a tough one alright. How long will it take to get his papers? I think if it wont take too long (i.e. 9 months!) i would probably want to start ttc again now. I understand why he might want to wait but if its a certainty that he can come back into the country legally i think why not now. As you said you dont want a big gap between your children

Answer 3

I feel your pain. My BF wants to wait till we get married, which he wants to do once he gets his contractors license and his own business, buys a house... Which wont be for another 2-3 years. The problem is, I have PCOS. The longer I wait, the slimmer my chances.

Besides, when is it really a good time? You'll love and care for the child no matter the circumstances, right?

Answer 4

You are irresponsible for getting pregnant by an illegal alien in the first place. These are called "Anchor Babies". Illegals marry Americans and have babies with them in order to bypass the immigration process.

He was already here illegally. Who is supporting your family? It is illegal to hire an undocumented worker. I hope taxpayers are not footing the bill for your family.

Second your own husband has enough sense to want to wait an see. Two weeks to re-enter? Ummm....I do not think so. You should refrain from having anymore children with this man until he is allowed to be here legally.  

Answer 5

I know your anxious but I have to agree with the hubby on this matter. We have two boy's 8 and 10 and we are just now ttc number 3. A large gap isn't bad, I thought it would be great to have children so close in age but omg the fighting and competition bbetween them...lol...this is why we wanted a gap with the 3rd:)