Roll call, tell me a little bit about yourself?

Question

About me.... I gave my daughter up in 1972. I do have regrets and I have been in counseling. I am now in reunion since 2001. My daughter has a great amom, but things were not always rosy. Stuff happens. Life goes on, but not always the way we would like it.

Answer 1

I'm married with 5 girls

2 children were adopted into our family.

1 domestic adoption and 1 IA adoption

First born daughter was stillborn

Told more times than i can count i'd never give birth

Some insight into infertility

stay at home mom

wildlife ecologist

considering a second degree

shocked as i first stumbled across this forum

Thankful i stumbled across this section

Thought i was pretty informed on adoption before, not so much now

pro-adoption reform

foster care, obc's, and Ethiopia are my latest passions.

Adoptees pov's are extremely important to me since i'm raising a few.

First parents pov's are extremely important to me as well.

Enjoying my children everyday

Motherhood rocks

My girls make being a good mother look easy.

Hands down have the greatest kids in the world, thanks for asking:)

Answer 2

Married for 14 years.  Three children: Son (15), Daughter (12), Son (7).  Oldest is my biological son, younger two are bio-siblings adopted from Liberia, a little over 2 years ago.  

I have three dogs, mixed breeds of different persuasions.  DH and I are taking our honeymoon next year (15 years late) and are going on safari in South Africa, which is something we've always wanted to do.  

I am an RN, currently working home health (wound care and home infusions) but I've worked lots of different areas in my career.  Someday, I might get my Nurse Practitioner degree, but way too busy with children to consider it.  

Children and dogs keep me very busy! Not a whole lot of time for much else!

Answer 3

Adopting out of fostercare

Bored out of my mind right now

Waiting for the work day to end

Two wonderful children from a previous relationship

Wonderful husband

One wonderful dog and one extremely spoiled little dog (my fault)..hehe

Live in the Midwest

Glad your reunited...I am hoping to have an open relationship with my sons parents (if they can clean up)....

Answer 4

I am 27 years old. Happily Married. Been TTC for a year. Facing fertility issues. Going to have surgery on Friday to see why. Like to hang out in "controversial" Q and A to learn more about the world then just what I've seen in my "real life". Considered adoption if not able to concieve naturally. Torn between paying money for invitro or adoption. Have three dogs, bored right now at work, love to boat on the weekends....work in sales! That's me.

Answer 5

I am 20, will be 21 on 10/13

I have a son who will be one on 9/14 (it's hard to believe!)

Not part of the triad, but I can not imagine having to be without my son and I am VERY thankful that coming on here has enlightened me about adoption

I am in nursing school and I plan to work in either L&D or postpartum

I am a big dog buff who has worked at two boarding kennels and actually started out in the dogs section of Y!A. My favorite breed is the Doberman

I have trust issues when it comes to men, they have never been very good to me, downright sick in the case of my step dad

I won't think twice about murdering someone if they hurt my child

Like Rock and Country music, hate Rap

I am an extended breast feeder and a co-sleeper

I am a Libertarian, I am pro-choice, I want ALL drugs to be legal (but no I do NOT do drugs, I did my fair share of experimenting back in the day, but got my life together when I found out I was pregnant) Go ahead and give me thumbs down, see if I care

I am super sweet to those I love, but don't p**s me off or you will see just how big of a ***** I can be

Answer 6

Coerced (heck, blatently lied to ;) ) into surrendering in 1981, son found my family in 1999, I found him in 2004 (long story) and he has been living with me and hubby sinc Dec 2006.

Answer 7

in foster care in 1982

adopted in 1983

have wonderful a-parents

reunited with Jeanie(first mom) before she died

addicted y/a even though there are adoptee haters are on here!

Answer 8

Born in 1977, adopted in '78. Amom died in 1992. Had my son in 1994, was forced to relinquish in 1997. Waiting for reunion. Reunited with my first family since 1999 and loving every second of it. Have two daughters as well as my son. I work, I pay the bills and I never touched the crack ;o)

Answer 9

I'm not part of the triad, but mostly a lurker here as I want to learn and understand everyone's POV.  

I like to think I break a lot of molds... my titles include:

State Social Worker - but I don't always agree with the "system."  And I work with mostly teens in foster care, it's not a pretty picture, that's for sure.  I could care less about the "numbers" that they tell us to care about, so my "scores" are usually pretty bad, but I pray for my clients and families and that, I think, is the most effective social work I can do.

Baptist Preacher's Wife - but I like to mix things up and confuse people by sitting in different pews - that really disturbs some of them!  My hubby just became a pastor about a year and a half ago so this is all new territory for me, even though I've grown up in church, it's still different.

Daughter - I'm the baby of the family and not at all like my older brothers.  My parents divorced when I was 3 and both remarried and later divorced their 2nd spouses.  My experiences with blended families weren't usually all that good.  My brothers lived mostly with my dad and I lived with my mom.  Started rebuilding my relationship with my dad when I was 20.  I'm 29 now.

Aunt - I have 3 nieces and one nephew.  I'm definitely the favorite aunt and spoil them as much as possible.  Also worried about them as their father's (my brothers) could really do a better job as dads.  The kiddos are ages 13, 12, 11, 10.  

Soon to be Mom - 6 months pregnant with our first, we've been married almost 8 years.  We started trying to conceive last year, found out I had PCOS, treated it, prayed about it, conceived in Feb 2008.  

Maybe someday an AP or foster parent - Don't know yet as it's a huge decision and will impact everything for us and potential children.  Studying up on the issues here and learning a lot.  Also I couldn't foster and keep my job, as it's a conflict.  

Considering staying at home to raise our family but would have never thought about this until now.  Before it seemed preposterous, but now, it seems more natural now that I'm pregnant I guess.  But I'm still struggling with the decision and seeking the Lord's will in it.  Don't have a clue how we'd do it financially, but have FAITH!    

Cat Mommy - have one perfect kitty, who is going to be so jealous of the baby!  Got her after Sept 11th attacks, named her Libby, short for Liberty.

Happy most of the time but struggle with depression and anxiety.  Just part of being me I guess!

Answer 10

Abandoned at age one, in an orphanage till I was almost five & adopted.  Was brought up in a super strict home & never felt truly loved my my amom as she was about  the "appearance of a perfect family" rather than actually being one...we're still working on our relationship.  Had a lot of anger & violent issues.  I am now married with a child, in my mid-late 20's.  Having my babe is the best thing that could have happened to me as it got me out of my bad life style and showed me so much about the issues I had with my adoption (that I never realized stemmed from it).  For the first time it showed me that just maybe my biomom actually loved me instead of hating her or anything that reminded me of where I came from. It's still a work in progress from all aspects.

I took the first step a few weeks ago & asked my mom for all my papers...I just got them & have been searching online now where to go. I'll take it one day at at time because I won't get my hopes up but the idea that I could possibly meet my biomom is amazing, considering I wouldn't have even considered it to be an option a few years back.

Answer 11

-My name is Lindsey and I'm 28.  I am close to graduating with my Associate in Medical Specialist.  I want to work for the American Red Cross.

-My partner is 26 and we have been together for 5 years.  She is a social worker and post on here every once is a while.

-We were foster parents of a sibling group of 5 for almost 2 years before adopting them.  They are 8, 7, 5, 3, and 2.

-We were in close contact with their first mother and she died last week.  I miss her very, very much.

-We are now helping the first father raise their two youngest siblings, a 15 month old girl and a 4 week old boy.

-I think that siblings should be able to stay together, no matter how big their sibling group is.

Answer 12

i am 25 years old, divorced, with 3 kids.

i was adopted by my stepdad not long after my mother was remarried.

currently going to college so i can get a good paying job to raise my 3 kids!

Answer 13

I am 33 and have been married for 8 years.

I live in Canada and adopted domestically from foster care, a sibling group consisting of a boy age 5 (3 at time of adoption) and a girl age 4 (18 months at time of adoption).

My son has been in therapy and has Rads. My daughter has caught up to her peer group both physically and cognitively.

I do not believe in Attachment Therapy and think that it is disgusting that anyone could ever do that to a child. i do not believe in drugging children who have emotional issues as that only solves things for the adults; therefore, I am tired all the fricken time lol!

I love my kids with all my heart and because of this keep their mother alive in our lives and have every intention of helping them find her when the time comes.

I am often confused, bewildered, and frustrated, but I try really hard to do what is right.

My husband rocks! But I wish he would do more dishes! lol!

I quit my job two years ago to bond and attach with my kids, and my husband then took 9 months off work to help my son because of Rads (see you don't need to hold a child in a head lock or smother them in a sheet to help them heal) and my son is doing much better now, two years later. He still has some major behaviours due to Rads, but he cuddles with me now, his eating disorder is gone, he shares, he kisses, he hugs, he laughs and he stopped hurting animals YAY!

and oh ya! He also no longer physically hurts me when I say "I love you" to him! Double YAY~

I was able to start work again this year! It has been very positive for everyone! and my son even tells me he is proud of my job because I get to help baby animals.

I take one day at a time and teach my family to do the same. Hopefully it will all work out in the end.

Answer 14

Been with my partner 11 years, i'm 28 years old, I have 2 children. I wear many hats, mother, activist, massage therapist, holistic practitioner, daughter, lover, friend, adoptee, student, women, gardener, healer, lover of the earth, humanitarian, neighbor.  

Answer 15

About me:18 years old,gonna b a freshman this year,depressed,an only child,luv Rock music,don't have many friends,don't go 2 parties,don't smoke or drink (like most of my peers do),i'm not weird ,it's just that i like different things,IM me sometime (assya_ivanova)

Answer 16

I am remarried to a wonderful husband, we just married this past June.

We are expecting our 1st child together.

I have 1 daughter from a previous marriage.

My husband has 2 sons from a previous marriage.

I cannot wait to see my new baby boy.  

I am due in 9 weeks!

I am addicted to Yahoo Answers!

Answer 17

Born in 1973, adopted at 4 months.

Reunited in 1996, discovered that my n-parents got married 2 months after I was adopted.  I have a full brother and a half sister, and two a-brothers.

N-dad passed away about 2 years ago, both a-parents are gone.

I am an old married girl with 2 kids, a bunch of barn cats and a dog, I hybridize clematis in my spare time (haha spare time, what's that??) and I also make all-natural products utilizing plant-based materials.  I am somewhat of a tree-hugger.

My reunion with my n-mom has its ups and downs, right now it's not up or down, I don't know where it is actually.  She has a lot of guilt issues that she needs to work through, and I have to learn that I can't "fix" her no matter how much I want to or wish I could.

Answer 18

Mom of 2, one still born, one 4.5 months old, both girls.

Married to a man i met in school, although never dated then lol.

Share my house with a Malamute called Storm, an albino cali king, and some scorpions.

Parents died when I was 10 days old, adopted twice, both not good families.

Studied to become a lawyer, although now changing to help those with gender and sexuality issues.

Love rock, celtic, chinese and french music, speak BSL, french and latin.

Oh, and I  talk. A lot. lol. About anything and everything.

Answer 19

I am a wife, a mother of 6, a grandmother of 9, a good and loyal friend, a lover, a student of life.  Although currently unemployed, I am an excellent employee, hardworking and honest.  I read, I talk and I love passionately.  I do needlework and taught it for over 10 years, and get lost in stationers and yarn shops.  I love shoes, and purses.  I am a Mother who lost a child to adoption.

I lost my firstborn son to adoption in 1967.  I loved his father, but my parents hated him, ergo I was gone, whisked away and incarcerated in a Salvation Army Home for months. Couldn't use my own name, open my own mail. or make friends.  We worked like servants, and also paid our own room and board. When my son's father came to get us a few days after he was born, they had him arrested at the door for trespassing and took my son away.  I was drugged and forced to bed.  My last hope was gone.  I am pretty sure I never signed the Surrender.  (I call it that, only, because to insure its signing the mother has to be broken beyond her will and utterly defeated).

Reunited with son in 1990.  Met with tons of anger, mostly directed toward me.  My son knows that he would have been better raised by me, with his own 2 brothers and 1 sister.  One face to face.  Our reunion is in yet another pullback (his choice....again)

I spent many years in denial. The horror of having zero control over my own life and circumstance forced that. When, many years into reunion, I realized the  magnitude of the loss, I was overwhelmed, and then I was furious.  I am angry still, but it is a colder and more focused anger now.  It is motivating.  

There is a phrase in the marriage ceremony, "What God hath joined, let no Man put asunder!"  If it is true in marriage when two adults join, how much more so is it true in the sacred bond of Mother and Child.  This sacred bond, which should be honored and cherished by the whole of society has been used against women and their children, forcing women to bear the entire onus of sexuality, and they and their children to be reviled and hated as a burden on society until they can be exploited thruough surrender and adoption.

I have spent years as an activist, becoming more and more open about  my loss and my activism.  After working in v arious areas of  the "adoption reform"  and "anti-adoption" communities for years,  I realize that I no longer have infinite time to do all that I wish. I realized that I cannot be scattered and be effective . I have had to narrow my focus.  So, I work in the area where I am expert...the crimes against the mothers from the time period that I am also expert on, my own...the time period sometimes called the EMS (or often the BSE).  I believe that by exposing the crimes of that time period the mothers and their children will be helped to heal.  

Sandy Young

Senior Mothers Adoption Activist Coalition

SMAAC