Roommate leaves bedroom door open at bedtime?

Question

my roommate leaves the bedroom door open at bedtime. i want to be courteous to roomie by not disturbing roomie because i wake up early and make a lot of noise preparing breakfast in the kitchen. however, roomie insists on keeping the bedroom door open. what should i do?

Answer 1

If you've asked and they say no, then it's probably due to a fear while sleeping in a room alone, in the dark, etc. and accept that answer.  I'd just be worried about it if I was the one losing sleep, but instead it's your roommate and they're fine with it.

Answer 2

Nothing if your roommate isnt complaining dont worry yourself

Answer 3

hey you did the right thing,HE HAS BEEN WARNED.go about your business and if he get tired of the noise he should get up and shut his door.nobodies fault but his own

Answer 4

remove some costly items of yours and his and wake him up in the morning saying that somebody has stolen all the expensive items because he has left the door open. Naturally he will stop doing that.( If your front door is still closed then you have to do something else like you insist on that the door is closed saying you have sleep/night walking habit)

Answer 5

If your roomie insists, then keep the door open. If he/she is disturbed by the noise then he/she would have chosen to close the door earlier!!

Answer 6

i would just shut the door while i'm getting ready, and then open it up when you are about to leave.

Answer 7

Some people need to have the door open, for various reasons (some need to not feel trapped, need the noises of the house, are simply so used to it they don't want to change, etc.). This can be a very hard thing to change, and can make sleep more difficult during the process.

If roomie isn't complaining or commenting on the breakfast noise, then you shouldn't have to worry. If it really bothers you, don't confront the "door open" part right away, but start with "I often worry that my making breakfast will wake you up, and I cannot make it any quieter." In other words, use "I" statements, like "I feel, "I worry" etc.

Remember: although there is concern for your roomie, this is about you and your worry. Confront it as such. Chances are that one statement will be met with a positive response such as "I sleep through it anyway" since you report no behaviour of waking up. Even if that is not the response, you've given the context, what you need, and conveyed compassion.

Answer 8

If you have stated that you wake up early and would not like to wake them with your morning habits and they still want to leave their door open.....their problem......not yours.    There is nothing more you can offer to solve the issue.  So unless having closed doors is so important to you over anything else, what is the problem?

Answer 9

Ooh, I know what you should do. Ask people in the poll/survey section on Yahoo Answers why they sleep with the door open and you'll surely find plenty of answers to solve your problem. Most of the time, it's because the person is afraid of the dark and have no type of lighting whatsoever. Invest in getting him or her a night-light or some sort of lighting. If your roomie insists about leaving the door open, maybe it's because he wants to make sure all is well (like nobody's trying to break in or fire etc).



I'm guessing because he's afraid of the dark

Answer 10

Keep on making all the noise you want, he doesn't seem all that bothered by the noise,

Answer 11

nothing, just make breakfast if they're really that bothered then they'd close the door

Answer 12

Maybe roommate's room is hot.

Maybe roommate is claustrophobic.

Maybe your noise doesn't bother your roomie.

I would not do anything unless it bothers you.  In that case talk to you roomie and discuss the problem.

Answer 13

don't worry if not complaining

Answer 14

Just leave him be.

Answer 15

If your roommate CLEARLY doesn't mind, why should you, unless it offends your sense of decorum, or whatever (which I respect, esp. if he/she is doing the nasty while you're trying to sleep or have breakfast?

If it DOES bother you that much, just ask him/her to pls. close the door. If they WON'T, then look for a new roommate? Easy. The rental market is outta sight now, so roomies are willing to come to terms w/anything you desire!

Answer 16

Your roomie has been forwarned. You advised her about the consequence of leaving the door open. Case closed.