Rugby i luve it except my father is my coach!?

Question

I luve rugby and play it every weekend but the thing is that my farther is my coch and he aint excactily brilliant. he makes me do all the stuff i cant do and just pushes me on and on. im not giving up or moving clubs. the other thing is that im quiet fat so i aint as agile and speedy as everyone else so he just takes the p**s out of me whisch is realy hard on ,me!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Change to Rugby League, you'd make a brilliant forward!  Just look at Paul Anderson and Mark Tookey (St Helens and Quinns) both brilliant forwards.

Answer 2

Your dad is just trying to make you be th best you can.  They can be quite pushy can't they?

Rugby is a great way of getting fit as it is a very physical game.  

Treat the coach as you would if he wasn't your dad - when he takes the mickey - tell him that he critisising isn't helping your game.

Don't give up - ignore him he doesn't take the hint.

Good luck   :-)

Answer 3

hahahahahhahahahahahaha *poke* fatty *poke*

oh im sorry, i just love posts like this. listen, forget the phsycological mumbo jumbo, about relieving youth or whatever, use your bulk to your advantage.find your centre of balance and learn to crush any opponent beneath your chubiness. turn that belly into a wrecking ball, do some damage, knock the living c**p out of the teeny tiny little flyhalf. if you dive on a rugby ball and it pops, believe me, no one'll laugh, they'll just be like take it! dont dive on me! do some strength training as well, turn that fat into muscle. become mighty luke, join the dark side. when someone runs into you...well we'll see what happens. throw 100% of your weight right at them. ofcourse if you miss, this could look extrememly funny and you could go flying and hit nothing. and please dont try this against a bigger opponent. no one wants to see a chubby kid get trodden on. despite it's traditional value, it can be quite depressing and can ruin a game for everyone (including yourself). you may have noticed how useless my advice has been so far, so now, seriously, become a prop, to throw a big amount of weight, i mean to properly launch it can punch a gigantic hole in an opposing scrum. remember to swing your weight. when you run into someone, launch into them, physically swing your body and throw it at them. oh and for God sake by lowfat milk and go for a jog once in a while, and dont just eat when your bored. i know the temptation is usually to stuff one's face when there is nothing to do, but try to control yourself. oh and dont even THINK about changing clubs, yknow how much that'd tick off your dad?

good man, i think one day we'll see an aspiring rugby star made out of you. remember, use the force. utilise the fat, control it, don't let it control you, let it be a catalyst for your propullsion towards your destination. dont EVER let it weigh you down.

good luck man, may the fat be with you.

Answer 4

That must be pretty hard but my dad's been a bit like that i think the best thing you can do is just tell him when you finding things hard and too take it and your own pace! But i guess its quite hard to tell your dad that so maybe you could explain to your mum and let her gently explain!

Answer 5

do your best.i have friends who's playing rugby although he's fat now he's the school star and i agree with william m.

Answer 6

What do you mean you "can't do?" Is your father asking you to lift cars or jump 5 stories? No, I am sure you is pushing you to run to the ruck, maul effectively and play the scrum position athletically. If you want to be a good rugger - understand a healthy weight advantage can allow you to excel in these basic fundamentals and be a great rugby player. I have played and taught and can tell you - an aware and aggressive rugger will be the safest and less injury prone guy on the pitch and through the combination of conditioning - you can dominate.

Just because he is your father, doesn't mean he may not be a "brilliant" coach.

Answer 7

your dad is  probably trying to push you because he wants you to be the best in the team but only sees one side of the story ( his)you must be dedicated if you want to be any good at rugby my dad never even watched me and i played a very good standard so take heart that he is at least interested in your sport when you reach senior or colt level he will realise  that he can't teach you any more and hopfully let somone else coach you,this may not help you now but you must talk to him if you can .its hard but tell him that you enjoy the game but find it hard to be pushed so

much. i also was over weight when i started rugby at 12 years old and weighing 12 and ahalf stones  but  i lost weight by training hard not only rugby but lots of different sports boxing ,swimming ,football,squash, running,and eating a carb and sugar free diet the worst thing i found was fizzy drinks i.e. colas.eat unrefined foods .foods that that have not been tampered with by man ,things that are whole foods ,vegetables fruits not only the common things like apples but try all the different fruits and vegetables like mangoes and bean sprouts( more proteen in been sprouts than in steak ) .uglifruits things that you would not normaly have,even juice them and have them as drinks( my favourite being celery, apple and ginger all fresh preferable organic)you will become fitter and stronger and your dad will be proud of you. some times people that have a hard time become hard and over come there disadvantages.keep trying and you will succeed if its worth having its worth working for life is also unfair to everyone now and again so don't be disheartened you will enjoy the results when you are possably playing a really good standard hope you get there.!

Answer 8

your dad is trying to play thro' you. he cant play anymore but wont let go he takes the p**s because he doesn't want to be seen as soft on you ...ialso coached my son he felt the same im sure

Answer 9

I used to play rugby for dewsbury moor and i was on the right wing side of Francis Cummings and i can tell you now his dad use to push and i mean push him but he never gave up and now he played for the rhino's went to Australia and now he is tony smith right hand man and he is only 29 So what am trying to say is your dad is looking out for you pushing you for success and if your a big lad like you say stay in the middle and give them what for big er you are the harder thy will fall so don't put your self down you can prove your dad wrong and i can tell you now i  wish my dad was like that i would be still playing today.

Answer 10

Lose weight and more to another team.  You need someone to be objective.  By nature a parent is rarely objective.

Answer 11

i think your dad just wants you to get better and thats why he pushes you hard! i just think he is just going the wrong way about it you need to have a chat one to one with him and tell him the problem!!!

stick with it mate rugby is the way forward you will make friends for life

Answer 12

You have to lose some weight eat less and exorcise more and prove him wrong!!

Answer 13

Maybe your dad is trying to relive his youth through you. Get him to read all of these answers because he is not a good dad to you if he is taking the p**s.

Answer 14

tell him where to go and act like a rugby man!

Answer 15

ask your dad to put himself in your place would he want to be treated this way .... i think not and just because u a little on the chubby side dont mean u cant be as good as everyone else, u go for it

Answer 16

awwww!!

Answer 17

change your club then

Answer 18

Change the club. If u live in sydney join my club.

It's north pirate. But u have to lose ur weight first before u join our club. Because our club doesn't like fat guys who can't run really well. Unless u r prop.

Answer 19

First of all,  How old are you?    If you under 16 its ok to be a little over weight.   If you are over 16 you might want to think about getting it off Because all it will do is hold you back.   You can still be strong if you are slim, possibly even stronger, you will be able to last longer in the game and make more of an impact for your side.

Secondly as for your dad he seems a bit of a bell end.   Tell him to stop taking the p**s out of you and that you are playing rugby for your enjoyment not his.

Thirdly, When he pushes you to do things that you say you cannot do,  Try your damdest to finish the drill or whatever it may be,   This will help get you fit, give you confidence and will also earn the respect off your dad.

Might I add that if you dont  put hard work in while you are training you definatley wont want to put it when you are playing.    This is why its important to be physically fit so you team mates can rely on you when the going gets tough.

Think about getting fit and staying fit it will benefit you in the long run.  

Good luck kid