SERIOUSLY??? Feeling "left out"... Any of you??

Question

My little baby man is 4 months old. Today for the very first time in his little life, he ROLLED OVER from back to tummy!! (YAY!!) He has never rolled at all!! However, here's where it gets sad....I missed it!! I was running his bath water and my hubby came running in yelling "Honey, he did it", I was like, "Did what?" "He ROLLED OVER ALL BY HIMSELF". oh!!

I know it's silly but I'm feeling a bit "left out" of these firsts. He held him first, fed him first, cuddled with him first (had emergency section and was sleeping/in recovery) and now he saw him roll over first!! :-(

Dont get me wrong, I love both my men (big and little) and am so glad that hubby is getting to see/do all these things with his son, but I have yet to get one! I spend all day with him at home, get up at night, bath him etc (and admittedly get lots of cuddles privately at night), but still...Come on...give me one!!!!

Does anyone else have a similar situation?? It just made me a bit sad that I was one room away and was so close but still missed it!! (but I'm still excited it happened!!)

Answer 1

I know how you feel!!  Both of my daughters said "dada" for their first word!  Here I was, a SAHM, I changed them, fed them, bathed them and they say dada.  Heart break.  SO, when my son was born, I pretty much laid down the law and made everyone say MAMA to him.  I would sit there holding him saying mama over and over.  Little did I know that my father had been brainwashing my infant son behind my back!!  As I was changing my son, I lovingly looked at him, said "mama" and MY darling boy smiled and said "Papa".  The name my kids call my father.!!!  PAPA!!  Heart shattered.  

But you may be the one who gets to pull his first tooth, watch his first step, hear his first words, see him fall in love for the first time, be there to pick up the pieces after his first heartbreak.  You get to make his first lunch for his first day of school, you get to watch him catch his first fish, or try his first lemon.  You will have your turn, I promise.  

Answer 2

I missed my daughter sitting up on her own for the first time.  I also missed her grabing her playpen slots and standing up on her own.  My husband missed her crawl for the first time.  Things happen dont beat yourself up over it.  You'll see so many other firsts.

Answer 3

ohhh you poor thing. I don't know how you feel and so I wont say that I do, but remember that there are so many firsts. I missed my oldest firsts steps. My brother and Husband saw them, but my husband missed her first word which was Da Da. But there is still so much more. Finding the first tooth. Hearing the first word, the first steps.

I can see how hard this is for you and I hope that it will ease up soon. Remember he has to go from tummy to back. There is so much more to come.

Hugs to you.

Answer 4

I know how you feel.  I was thankfully awake but was still second to hold my son.  He came out so fast my doc was scrambling, and barely had her gloves on and there were no nurses in the room right then, so she handed my son to my hubby.  But At almost 6 months old, I work weekends, and have misses his first rolling over in both directions.  But the way I try to look at it is, I am betting since I  stay at home with him a heck of a lot more them my hubby, I will see a lot more firsts. :)

Answer 5

Congrats!! . . . Just know that there are SO SO many milestones that your sweet little one will meet and you WILL catch!  Enjoy the ever growing child!  You may not catch the first roll over but you will catch the second, and the third, and fourth, and the walking, and the talking, and the first day of school, and the graduation, and the wedding, etc! etc!

EDIT:

My ever growing children make me cry all the time . . . in fact it's starting to annoy them!!  My 3 year old recently told me she was a baby " a long time ago" . . . she doesn't even remember all the moments . . . and she's still a baby!  Please take lots of pictures!  Put them in a scrapbook, and show them to everyone constantly!

Answer 6

I know exactly what you are feeling. I had to send my son to daycare at 6 weeks old to go back to work. I missed many firsts. Daycare saw him walk first. And I always had to be the bad guy at the doctor's office...my ex couldn't hold him down for shots.

However, like the other users said, there are many more to come. Just wait for first fever, first tooth, first real smile (if not already). Yes, you will miss some, but you will be rewarded later. Just love him and kiss him (as long as he will let you).

Answer 7

I've been through that too, though I didn't really feel left out. My hubby held our daughter first, changed her diaper, bathed her, gave her solid food first,heard her talk first etc. I am a stay at home mom and he works 40 hr wks at night so he sleeps during the day and misses so much now that i love being able to look back and think of the first time he bathed her and everything, it just seems so sweet now and something i know he will always remember. I usually let him do the first THINGS with her since I know I will eventually see her DO more firsts (does that make sense?). Babies have soooo many first that even though its sad to miss any of them you will see more than you miss.  

Answer 8

My little girl rolled over for the first time yesterday and i was outside getting the post and missed it too. I also missed her first smile and laugh.

:( i felt left out aswell. I hope i dont miss her first crawl, i would be soo disappointed.

Answer 9

Welcome to motherhood.  we do all the work and we are the ones that our kids take for granted, this is just the start.  We can stay at home all day and do it all, and then the daddy will come home and we are forgotten, its sad but true.  I think just be happy that you can stay at home to bond with your baby in a way that is different for his dad.