SHE ISNT CHEATING ON ME BUT IT IS STILL A LOVELESS MARRIGE?

Question

i know she isnt cheating on me and that she says she loves me but i just cant get her to open up and tell me what is wrong, i have tried all the things i can think of and she still just keeps to herself, and says there is nothing wrong, i feel like i am married to a srtanger

Answer 1

sounds depressed

Answer 2

Until she is ready to talk about it, there is nothing you can do. Continue to love her, and be there for her. When she is ready to talk, she will. In the meantime, stop obsessing that something is wrong....there might not be anything wrong, simply the way she is.

Answer 3

Why don't you try some sort of counseling?  Why don't you try to take her somewhere, dinner, something, where you have to get a conversation going.  My parents fought for years, and it's really not the way to live your life.  Hopefully, your not on the computer too much, and not talking to her.

Answer 4

wow you sound desperate. that was how my parents marriage ended two years ago. it was like they were robotically saying "i love you," as if they were on auto-pilot. there was no passion.

you deserve to be happy, but on the other hand, divorce is messy and nasty for all parties involved. if you have children, definitley do not make this decision lightly.

Answer 5

sorry but i could be her and my poor husband dosent know whats wrong and I cant explain it.  I love him but just dont know what to say to him and sometimes I  feel I am gonna lose him....I dont want to I will have to talk to him he needs to know that I really do love him/  Good luck.

Answer 6

I agree with the first answer. If it is depression, all you can do is be there when she does want to talk, but I would recommend counseling. If not depression. Try doing the things for her that you did when you were dating. That usually is a good ice breaker.  

Answer 7

When a girl doesn't open up to her spouse, something is really wrong.  Its most likely she doesn't want to hurt you.  But just give her time she will let you know when she is ready to get things resolved.  She is considering your feelings over hers.  I have done the same thing and it took years for me to tell my husband I was unhappy with the marriage.  I had many reasons.  Please be kind and reasonable she will open up to you soon.  God Bless.

Answer 8

marriage counseling might help!

Answer 9

if you know for sure that she's not cheating...then i would think that she's depressed.  it might be a very hard time for her.  depression is not logical...it can't be reasoned with, bargained with, or motivated out of.  worst thing about it is, unless you have experienced it, you can't relate or understand.  no matter how much you might think that you can.  i would tell your wife that you are concerned, and that you love her more than anything on earth.  tell her that you would like to go to marital counseling, for the purpose of saving your marriage.  hopefully, she will be receptive to that course.  if she is not too far gone, it will scare her into wanting to get better again.  one thing that i do know is that you can't go on like this.

Answer 10

Tell her that she can trust you. And you shall always be on her side with you. Please tell me what is wrong i feel like its my fault and you dont trust me. if you dont tell me nobody can help.

main thing is, she must trust you.

Luck x

Answer 11

Maybe she does not know what is wrong.  Maybe she is simply depressed.  If you are sure she has not cheated then she probably hasn't and that is good.  Maybe you need a weekend away something to make her feel real good.  

Is she is depressed for some reason it could take months of reassuring for her she is special....  If she does seem depressed tell her that her being depressed is depressing you...  I just had to have this talk with my husband last night but

I know it is nothing we can not work through...

Answer 12

I just sent you a message, because I've been reading so many questions and I didn't realize you were married.  I'm sorry.

Well if you are married, you cannot stop confronting her about the way you feel if you feel like something is wrong.  You have to know why she isn't communicating, showing love, respect, trust and why the relationship is not happy and comfortable.  You can't just wonder or worry.

With pride and dignity you have to want answers.  If she is going to ignore you or just say nothing is wrong, when you know something is, then you might have to threaten that you have to file for divorce.  That's when you'll see the real truth and that's when you'll know if she loves you.  Her reaction will tell all.

Again, I'm sorry and I wish you all the luck!

Answer 13

Have her talk to someone else and maybe they can help her thru whatever seems to be troubling her.....

Answer 14

maybe when she does tell you nothing is wrong you are not compassionate about it...

have you ever abused her, even mentally, or had an affair yourself?  ever had an outside fling???  I would not open up to someone anymore if they cheated in any form =(...

if you would be more understanding and supportive and gentle and serious instead of a mean jerk picking on her half the time...  

I don't know, I can only assume...

Answer 15

I'm sorry you're going through all of this; but you know, no one can read anyone else's mind, and all you can do is either let your imagination run wild and get more paranoid, or, sit her down and share you feelings, fears and concerns with her.  She can't read your mind either.

You didn't indicate if her attitude/behavior is something new or if she has always been this way.  If this is new, then something must have happened that upset her, or ??  And, if this is how she has always been, then it is part of who she is and not a reflection on you or your marriage.

Answer 16

Oh thats sad try talking to her more and more en also try to go for counselling

Answer 17

If she just is not talking about what is bothering her just say something like :honey, i love you and I will always be hear for you and anytime you need to talk I will be here for you.

If it is effecting your marriage you need to tactfully inform her of that without making her angry.